As for me, I don't think it's necessary for me to friend with my ex (this rules apply to scandals too). It's too complicated and I love to make my better half secure. I love my life to be simple, please don't judge me please.
I hate.. no.. let's make it.. I loathe people who say "I'm totally over my ex" and when the ex calls, face all bright up, if he/she was a star, it'd sure bright up the whole town. If they just ended up the relationship, it's still okay, but if after 2 years.. are you out of your mind?!
Though, I still have a lot of respect to those who can maintain close friends with their exes with no hanky panky or whatnot. That is very rare. But, some of my friends manage to do that. And since I have no idea how they could be damn professional about it, I really salute these people, they just.. mature..
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that there are some dos and donts in a relationship and they VARY.
Some friends with the ex. Some just don't.
But I think there should be one thing that all of us should agree on..
NEVER TALK BAD ABOUT YOUR EX IN PUBLIC
Everyone has flaws. Both party must have a flaw, or else the relationship will work out, insya Allah. And yes, sometimes you gossip about your partner with your friend. But you don't talk bad about your ex in public. You don't abuse facebook to mock the person you once loved.
I sometimes wonder, how could you do that to someone you once loved. There could just be 2 reasons for me.
One, is that you think you really over your ex. But you are not. The fact that you are still talking about your ex in public means, you are not over him/her. If you are over your ex, you won't even know where he/she is right now. And which is why, I am not friend with my ex. For me, when it's over, it's over (but of course after a while)
Reason number 2, is that you want to show your ex that you win the break up, which also means you are not really over her. Why would you wanna impress her still? pfftt..
That is just my 2 cents.. :)
It's just.. u know disappointing to read someone writes nasty things about his ex when you
And sucks to know that his ex is someone very dear to you.