Thursday, January 31, 2013

Istikharah..

A couple of weeks ago, I received an offer as a full time researcher in one big company. ‘Company’, rather than ‘University’.. A change of career path altogether.

I always knew since I was a little girl, that teaching comes as a nature to me.

After a while, I fell in love with research. It’s a passion, an addiction. So I took ‘teaching’ as a medium to find my actual passion -> ‘Research’.

But.. this place, where I’ve been since I was 18 held a soft spot in my heart. I have a stable job here, forever grateful with what I’m making at the end of the month, I created my own label here and mostly I have a lot of fun growing up with friends in the research lab of whom I cried and laughed with throughout the hardship of my PhD.

On the other hand, it’s thrilling. To see what you’ve been studying all along is inline with the industry and to actually see the ‘baby’ I’ve been raising all along is worth more than I thought.

But I’m too small for such BIG decision. So, I let Him decides. :)

The last time I had such BIG decision to handle was when Love proposed. And look where I am now. So, I have faith :)

Monday, January 28, 2013

For the longest timeee...

For the longest time, having a huge crush on Summer a.k.a Jess a.k.a Zooey Deschanel, I found a new 'crush'.



Gemma Arterton of Hansel and Gretel.

Okay, ignore me if I sound gay-ish, I don't care. Off to google how she ends up this hot. Okaybye.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Supplement ala2 Darwish Darwisya

I haven't been writing about Darwish Darwisya for quite a while.

Truth is, I've been having hectic weeks, only Allah SWT know how. Tired mentally, tired physically, and that guilt of arriving home with a greet by my sweetheart.. That just broke my heart. Her 'haq', her time with me that I stole an hour every day going home late for my PhD..

I'm deeply sorry, Khaira Asyikin.. (Such an emotional time writing this down, I actually in tears.) It's gonna worth it, baby!! I'm submitting my thesis in three months time, insya Allah.

So, mommy's dilemma. Working hard to be a supermom. Hence, today I'm gonna write about supplement ala2 DarwishDarwisya, perhaps we can take it as our supplement to boost up our energy.

To be honest, I'm not a supplement junkie. Simply because I tried to reduce processed food as much as possible. So, this one kind of attracts me a lot and okay let's start.

Ingredients:
Dates
Dried fig/Buah Tin
Raisins
Olive oil
Habbatus sauda' a.k.a black seed
Honey
Almond
Air zam zam

At the moment, since I haven't introduced almond to Baby K and I plan to introduce honey at 2 y.o, I omitted these two items.

Then, blend it until the texture became somewhat like your Scott's Emulsion supplement.

Put it in a fridge, and give your baby a spoon a day.

As for me, I'll make the stock for the three of us every week. I'd use 1 dried fig, 3 large dates, 21 raisins, a tablespoon of olive oil, and a teaspoon of black seed. Air zam zam to dilute. This mixture so far is the best, kalau lebih manissss!!

Khaira Asyikin??? She loves it very much ok.  She'd say "Dappp!!" and I became a happy mother then..

I gave her for over a month now. Alhamdulillah, her health is at the best condition and she is at her most super active mode as usual.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

NLP to change and reshape beliefs

*A review from Dr. Alvin Teoh's book

NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. What is it, I will explain in my next post.

Today, I would like to share some interesting tips on how to change someone's belief. It is called the AEIOU belief busting.

A - Ask a question that will impact that someone.
E - Expose the situation for what it really is.
I - Indirect suggestion so the inconspicuous suggestion will easily find its way into the subconscious mind.
O - Be open
U - Understand why that someone behaves so.

And how to reshape someone's belief, 3 R is the key.

Rituals - I remember when Love came home from his first meeting with Herbalife and he suddenly seemed to be brainwashed, like extremely motivated. It starts with that simple sing-along session where you'd first wonder why do you have to do this, then suddenly your mind starts believing in what you are singing. So, something like that.

Resolution -This is where you plant ideas which makes a person uneasy if he/she doesn't follow through. Take the Herbalife example, it's a way of saying, "You want to be healthy right? You don't have time to eat healthily, so you like having this as a substitute right, Sir?" Something like that. I don't know what they did during Herbalife meeting, never went there, never intend to.

Repetition - "What is repeated often enough will be believed as if it's true."

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

The art of hypnotizing

I fell in love with hypnosis the first time I heard about it. And even more when I learned about it during my hypnobirthing class. Ever since, I learned a lot through reading.

Currently I'm reading a book on hypnosis which I don't really feel like sharing the title in my blog because it might be a little taboo to some people. But, the content is interesting and very suitable to establish better connections with our spouse and our children.

According to Dr. Alvin Teoh, hypnosis is defined using 3 I's:
1. Influencing
2. Inconspicuous
3. Incremental/immediate change.

There is of course a big difference between influencing and persuading. When you persuade, it is just for a specific situation. But when you influence, it's like you're putting someone under your spell. Sounds scary, but actually very useful if you use it for the right purpose.

Inconspicuously means putting things into someone's subconscious mind. Most of the time, we know that our subconscious mind takes over our decision making. For example, you plan to go for a holiday. That is your conscious mind talking. But your subconscious mind suddenly decides to go to Paris because you have been influenced by the media that it is such a romantic place to visit.

Hypnosis is very similar to the movie 'Inception' where you plant the idea in someone's mind. So, sometimes you see the results immediately, sometimes the change is incremental.

I will review on this throughout my post later on.

As of today, it is worth mentioning that the most important key in hypnotizing that you must remember is that, "the best hypnotist is someone who can hypnotize himself/herself".

So in order to make your husband to find you beautiful, you must feel beautiful first. In order to make your student thinks that you're confident enough when teaching, you have to feel confident first. In order to make your daughter feels that you love her unconditionally, of course lah you love your daughter unconditionally kan... Hehe.

It is important to make yourself feel so, because what you believe will actually influence the way you stand, the way you sit, move, walk, talk, etc..

So, how to make you feel beautiful, confident, etc.. that's when the hypnotizing took place. Hypnotize yourself first. It's a very simple exercise, actually. In your mind, list down positive things about yourself or a very positive scenario.

Example, to make me feel confident in a presentation, I would always remember the day I impressed my examiner during my Master Viva. Add colors and details to what you're thinking.

Where am I in this situation, what do I see, what is the surrounding like, is it bright, how do I look, what do I wear, who is there.
Is it quiet, what are the sounds I hear, what did the examiner said, what did I say to myself.
Even to the tiny detail like how do I feel, is it cold, how close is the examiner to me, etc.

And alhamdulillah, so far it works for me :)

Don't be scared of hypnotizing. It is actually a more subtle way to influence your loved ones, especially in my case, my students to be a better person altogether. Rebellious teenagers found it easy to just push away your advices, this might be a helpful method.

After all, if you're not doing it, someone else might have already done it to them. Some people are born with these things. And I think I'm married to one. ;p

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

The birth of one, the lost of the other

My SIL gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on 26th December 2012!

Say hello to Imaan Iris :)



I finally have a niece, and Khaira now has a cousin!

The day Imaan Iris was born was also the day a cousin of mine lost her 6 months old baby girl in the womb.. Or so the doctor said.

The baby stopped moving altogether for a couple of days and when my cousin went to see her gynae, the doctor said there was no heartbeat anymore, the baby's head started to shrink and etc.

After seeing her gynae, the baby started to kick and move again as if telling the mother, as according to my cousin, "she's still alive but in pain." This persisted for two days. And on the second day, my cousin told her daughter, "If it's best for you to go, both mama and papa redha."

And that was when the baby stopped moving altogether.. Permanently..

Sad..

And even more sad when the stillbirth baby as of today, is still in her womb. Her gynae advised the baby to be born naturally, where she'll feel some surges and then eventually she'll give birth normally as it should be.

I pray the best for my cousin and her family. And I pray that people around her would be more understanding and more helpful in helping her get through this.

When I was at risk of losing Baby K at 14 weeks old in the womb, I couldn't even imagine how life would be, to go on without her. Be strong, cousin. We'll get through this..

Assalamualaikum 2013 :)

Yay, it's 2013!!

Alhamdulillah, I survived 2012 gracefully..

My wishlist for 2012..

Bali
Graduate from my PhD
Breastfeeding Khaira for at least 6 months
Sponsor my family to Langkawi
Register for Hajj
Do something for our home
Give a car to my parents
Collect results for PhD
Breastfeeding Khaira for at least a year

Manage to cross all, but 'graduate from my PhD' is still on the way! Doakan..

2013's wishlist..

Goldcoast
Do something for our home
Breastfeeding Khaira for at least 1 and a half year
Senior Lecturer
Save at least RM20k
Cameron Highland
Aerobic class/dance class/gym
Graduate from my PhD
Insya Allah, this year must cross everything :)