Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Melahirkan Bayi Genius Akhir Zaman - A review

I'm done reading this in less than two weeks. Don't ask my verdict. I'm bias like that towards Puan Lina Karim.

Get the ebook here

The best RM56 I spent on (RM6 charged by pay pal; RM0 for printing sebab Love printkan, Tq Sayang!).

I especially love Chapter 7.

Some notes worth sharing:

1. Babies start hearing as early as they are 5 months in the womb. If we train them to listen to Quran, in shaa Allah, when they come to the world, they would be familiar with the Quran and at ease everytime they listen to it.

2. They have the sense of touch as early as week 8. Rubbing your tummy will generate a lot of oxytocin receptors. I discussed about oxytocin many times before in my blog. It is a happy hormone that will ease your birthing process and make your baby happier in the tummy (hence healthy and more adaptable because the baby feels loved). So, be happy especially when you are pregnant, unhappiness leads to the development of cortisol; a hormone that can cause brain damage as well as lowering down your baby's antibody.

3. The sense of taste develops during week 13 to 15. So, eat healthily. Dates help the babies to speak earlier later on. Don't forget the happy pills; Vitamin B (Acid Folic is one of them). I took Vit B with Acid Folic during my first trimester to ease up my morning sickness. Apparently, Puan Lina did mention morning sickness helps you clean yourselves internally when you are pregnant, a new insight :)

4. The sense of smell develops at week 11 to 15; they can smell the amniotic fluid which is similar to the smell of their mother; hence they recognize the mother the moment they were born.

6. At week 16 onwards, baby can start seeing and recognizing whether the outside of the tummy is dark or otherwise. After week 27, you can start stimulating them by using torch light directs to your tummy.

7. You can start a routine for your baby since in the tummy. Fix time to solat, sleep, eat and play so that it creates their muscle memory and they can hopefully continue with the sleep routine as they come out of the womb.

So many points I wish to share.. But I guess, it will never be the same; not comparable with Puan Lina's explanation.

My suggestion..

GO.BUY.THIS.BOOK.NOW.

For pregnant mommies who are reading this, happy birthing and enjoy your pregnancy because you're the chosen ones!!~

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

The magic of mothers and daughters - A review

2 years ago, during my birthday, I received this book from a new colleague and her boyfriend.



With PhD, then the aftermath, then books in queue (up to date, I would estimate I have 30 more books in queue and I'm still buying new ones, I really should stop buying, shouldn't I?), I only managed to read it recently.

I would rate this 2.5 over 5.

So disappointing.

I guess the biggest mistake is letting writers write these stories, they tried to make the stories too fancy, it lacks of soul. I would prefer to have normal people with interesting stories to share, it becomes more genuine.15% of the stories are just plain whining and selfish for me. A grandmother whining of having autism grandchild, sad. Parents who chased away their daughter and refused to take her back when she begged just because they were scared she would give bad influence towards the son, haunting. A woman, who thought it's best to choose her daughter over her dying mother, tragic.

"The best thing you can do is to serve your mother, then your mother, then your mother, and then you father, then your relatives."

What we learned in Islam.

"What you give up (to your parents), must be the same than what you give down (to your children)", a speaker once advised us.

I have nothing nice to say because these three stories I mentioned above haunt me throughout.

My story of having this book is, at least for me, more interesting.

Shortly after this colleague gave me the book, she broke up with his boyfriend, which was part of the reason I refused to read it. Kind of inappropriate, I was thinking.

But right when I started reading the book, they got back together and now they live happily ever after. The end.

Thursday, December 4, 2014

13 years and counting

Love and I are always pysched about anniversaries.

21st November marked our 13 years anniversary. 13 years since he proposed to me as his girlfriend in front of the boy's toilet in our high school. I was just done with my Tae Kwan Do practice in my Tae Kwan Do's shirt that was stained with chemicals that I just accidentally burned in my chemistry lab. Bad day ended with memorable ones. How time flies..

I love you, baby!

As always, both of us took a leave on that Friday. Had breakfast at our fav. mamak (the only mamak I ate), Ad Dhuha (the owner is a Malay, btw; my colleague's hubby) together with K, dropped by at Little Caliph to pay her fees, back at home to feed the little ones while Love had his Friday prayer. Then, leaving the girls for our little date!

We watched Interstellar and oh my goodness!! Have you watched? Have you watched? What do you mean you haven't watched???? Go watch now! Totally worth my 3 hours and the dizziness due to the aftermath.

Then, we had our early dinner at TGI Fridays. New menu, everybodyyyy!! Loaded chip Nachos! Recommended by the waiter with the description, "Macam kerepek makan dengan cheese." Made us laughed, but actually that was exactly how it tasted like.

Pic in hubby's phone, so I stole this pic from google

Okay, the best part.. what did I give him for our anniversary?


Photobook, yo! A compilation of all our pics from 13 years back!!!

I bought the Photobook from Groupon. Made it at http://www.photobook.com.my/. The design and all can be done online. They even provide templates. The process is very simple. And you just submit the design and the pics online, the next day it arrives at your doorstep.

The best part is, Love loves it a lot!! Hehe.

The next day was his birthday, he had 3 celebrations this year. Amboi!

I made him a no bake Nutella Cheese Cake! While both Love and Aisha were asleep, I brought Khaira with me to buy the ingredients and before both of them were awake, the cake was almost done!

The crumbs on top were done by K

Not pretty, but really yummy. Both my brothers had 3 slices at once. I know Love would love to have 3 slices too, but he was on diet so.. *perasan mode on*

Seriously, it's easy to make and yummy (the yummiest no bake cheese cake I've done). I don't fancy baking. At all. But come on, this is a no bake cake and for my hubby's bday. Once a year ok lah kan.. because he's the only guy I'd bake for in this world (not lazy, ok, sweet! Haha!).

If you happen to follow my Instagram and Facebook, some of my friends asked me what happened with the parcel from UK.


Like I predicted, he didn't manage to find it. It was under the bed, he looked but couldn't find. Guys! Then I put it in my laptop bag next to his. Couldn't find as well. And finally I put it in the paper bag where he usually placed his baju-kotor-yang-can-still-pakai (guys!), mestilah tak jumpe jugak! So, he got his present on his birthday, lupe ambil gambar ok. Next time, in shaa Allah!

Anyhow, doakan kami bahagia until jannah!

For those interested with the no bake Nutella cheese cake; copied from Nigella's website.

Ingredients (*tak logik kan I ada penimbang or able to measure in gram segala ingredients ini, jadiku pakai hentam)

250 grams digestive biscuits (McVitie's besar = 400gm, so agak2 la separuh lebih sikit)
75 grams soft unsalted butter (1 bar setengah)
1 x 400 grams jar nutella (at room temperature)
100 grams chopped toasted hazelnuts (tak jumpa hazelnuts, so pakai digestive biscuit punye crumbs)
500 grams cream cheese (at room temperature) (1 pack Tatura besar)
60 grams icing sugar (sifted)

Method

  1. Break the digestives into the bowl of a processor, add the butter and a 15ml tablespoon of Nutella, and blitz until it starts to clump. Add 25g/3 tablespoons of the hazelnuts and continue to pulse until you have a damp, sandy mixture.
  2. Tip into a 23cm/9inch round springform and press into the base either using your hands or the back of a spoon. Place in the fridge to chill.
  3. Beat the cream cheese and icing sugar until smooth and then add the remaining Nutella to the cream cheese mixture, and continue beating until combined.
  4. Take the springform out of the fridge and carefully smooth the Nutella mixture over the base. Scatter the remaining chopped hazelnuts on top to cover and place the tin in the fridge for at least four hours or overnight. Serve straight from the fridge for best results.



Monday, November 24, 2014

It is still a sad thing..

Was browsing through Facebook, and randomly watched a video that makes me cry.. so badly, never in my life I cried this bad watching a video/movie before.

I cried again the next day.

And the following day.

And cried today just as I typed this.

It's about a social study done in NY, where a man asked for a slice of Pizza from strangers for hours; none gave him. Until a homeless guy shared his with him.

I shared the video and thought of putting "the saddest video I've ever watched" as the caption in Facebook, but I bet some absent minded followers (followers, not friends because my friends would never do this) would comment things like, "Palestinians died everyday, that's the saddest thing".

Of course it's sad. Those things. I've never watched the video or picture because it's too hard to bear. But that doesn't make this video any less sad.

Click here to redirect to the video

"Why did you cry?" Love asked, slightly puzzled with my overreaction.

It's because all reasons. How could you still eat your Pizza knowing a hungry stranger asked you for a slice of yours; just a slice of yours, God knows how many days he hasn't been eating. And the fact that a homeless guy of all people would share his. And the homeless guy cried in the end. I can't even..

"It's happening all around us, Sayang," Love tried to console me. Accurately, Love thought he was consoling me.

I mean, when? When is this a normal thing. Last time I checked, my friends were all normal people, not even twice they think of sparing some cash for some strangers that came over our lunch table every now and then. I can forgive people not sparing cash, but food? Come on, you treat cats and dogs better than this.

"You're blessed to be surrounded by beautiful people then. Either that or you choose to block those things that you don't intend to see around you," He thought he was consoling me again.

I have to agree. Beautiful people, yes. And blocking things I dislike are also what I did best. Ignorance.. is still a pure bliss for me, sorry. Hence, I don't mind you calling me ignorant. I am. That's where I found peace in this nonsense world.

"Let me tell you a story.." He began. Of a story how back then when we finished SPM, he dropped by to Strudels and spent all his cash to buy a cake for me. I mean, ALL his cash. Only to realize, he didn't have any to spare for his parking ticket. For his one ringgit parking ticket that now became the obstacle for him to see me. He just wanted to get out of the parking. Numb. The value of one ringgit at that time meant more than the RM100 he spent to buy me the cake.

"Umm.. which part of your story meant to console me again?" I asked, puzzled. Though I kind of get what he meant. The value of RM5 to us compared to a homeless person like in the video. Encouraging me to give more.

"Let me tell you another story.." He began again. On a story of how he asked our little girl on what would she do if there's a hungry stranger came to her. "Do you know what Khaira said? Nothing I did to influence her on her answer. This came from her herself."

"What?" I asked.

He called Khaira and the reply of a small child, totally innocent and obviously has more common sense than the adults in the video..

"I would feed her!" She replied in all excitement.

That makes my day. And I should just stopped crying. But I didn't.




Monday, November 10, 2014

My daughter said the darndest things

I'm having a hard time coping up with funny stuff Khaira said. Hence the compilation..

Nov 3rd, 2014

Lil girl had a haircut yesterday. Upon seeing her hair fell on the floor, she asked, "Rambut siapa tu, Bu?"
Dumbfoundedly, I replied, "Ehh.. that's your hair Khaira."
The following question from her dumbfound me even further, "Kenapa rambut Khaira colour black? Kan rambut Khaira colour yellow?"
(T_T) Seriously? Budget mat saleh sangat.

July 20th, 2014

"Ibu, harini kita pergi tengok kerbau dengan budak sembu nak?"

July 9th, 2014

You know that time when kid had a little monologue all by themselves before they went to sleep. I heard K's last night. It went something like this..
"Kita tak perlu takut. Kita serahkan semua pada Allah. Kita serahkan semua pada 'iman'".
I believe it was from one of the ceramah Ramadhan she heard with mom. Baru nak rasa sejuk hati when the next sentence came out from her mouth.
"Kita serahkan pada pak long @mdshazali, pada mama long @izrinirina "
Then I realized the 'iman' she was referring to was actually her cousin Imaan Iris.
She didn't get it at all, did she?

May 16th, 2014

"Ibu, kejap lagi Keong (her imaginary friend, God knows why she named him Keong) nak datang. Ibu salam Keong tau!" Apekah?? (T_T)

Months after, we figured out Keong is actually "clown". She mispronounced it.

April 12th, 2014

Third week of successful potty training when all of a sudden Khaira peed all over her pants last night. When being asked why, she calmly responded, "Bukannya selalu". Sigh..

January 30th, 2014

What she learned from grandmom today, "Kalau muwap, tak tutup mulut, nanti santan masuk".

December 25th, 2013

The following conversation took part before we fell asleep last night. 
Khaira: Ibu, nak coklet.
Me: Coklet dah habis lah Khaira. Esok ibu beli ok.
Khaira: Takpe.. esok Khaira cari duit Khaira beli ok.
Sad or what? (T_T)

October 21st, 2013

Khaira said semalam as we went out of the house, "Look! Rumah kari?"
Kapal Shaharil and I: "apa tu?"
"Rumah hati!!" She repeated while pointing but we still couldn't make sense of what she was referring to.
Getting frustrated and almost cried, she finally translated, "sun!!" 
Rumah hati.. matahari.. ok lah.. dekat lah tu. Oh my bm!

Monday, November 3, 2014

Being considerate

Yesterday was a super tiring day.

I started working right after Deepavali. Class started full force yesterday.

2 hours lecture. First time in theatre. And being an annoying lecturer as always, I love walking around the class.

Only this time.. need to climb stairs. Using my 2 inches heels. (T_T)

Came home to find Aisha was cranky the whole day due to her 3 months vaccination. Still cranky when I got home, I couldn't do anything else except calming her down since mom was super tired already.

On top of it, Khaira demanded my attention and I couldn't take the stress. Scolded her a bit. Deep inside, I thought, "Can't  you just be a lil bit considerate Khaira? Had a tiring day today."

After both of them calmed down, I had a chat with mom. And she said Khaira had been pretty much abandoned the whole day cuz mom was so occupied with Aisha.

Poor baby..

I hugged Khaira and realized I was the one whom being inconsiderate to her. I'm sorry, Darling..


Tuesday, October 21, 2014

28th September 2014

That night of 27th September was a fun night. We celebrated dad's birthday, 'tapau'ing Nando's and had a wonderful time. Thought of sleeping over at parents' crib, but later decided to go home.

At that time, Aisha still in the process of learning about day and night. So when my phone kept on beeping at 2am, I finally checked my phone while nursing.

See, my grandfather had been sick for almost a year plus already. Since then, we went to visit both my grandparents almost every week. I am so close to my grandmom since she was the one who took care of me back when mom was working.

While I was in confinement and was not able to visit him for weeks.. his sickness worsen. Although it sounds ridiculous, secretly I was hoping that I had that chance to meet him after confinement.. at least once.

Right after my confinement, a week before 28th September, we came and he was asleep.. the whole time. I put some cash in his hand and bought him some diapers and kissed him before I went back.

Back to my phone story, I rarely checked them esp at night.. but that night I did check the WhatsApp group. Uncle sent a video of my grandfather.. "macam nazak," was what going on in my mind. But I pushed that silly thought away.

I asked dad if I should come. I really think I should.

Dad said wait until morning since it was at 3am and we have a newborn there.

Being obedient as always, I tried to get some sleep. Just fell asleep when I dreamt of my grandfather passing and I woke up with the phone ringing.

Love answered.

And the next sentence that came out of his mouth was, "Innalillah.."

Only God knows how shattered my heart, my world, my days are filled with us calming and soothing each other ever since.

It has been a harsh harsh year for us.

Al fatihah to my Datuk. And may Allah swt grants the strength to Mak (my grandmom).

My heart breaks reading fb status of both my brothers..





Wednesday, October 15, 2014

My 29th birthday

The eve of my birthday, I was in my late uncle's house. It has been a year since he left us. The pain has lessen a bit for me.. Time does heal everything.

Love was not there with me. He was enjoying WWE live with fil. He came back just before midnight to wish Happy Birthday to me.

My birthday fell on Sunday. So we had lunch at in law's, tea at grandmom's and dinner at my parent's where people made fun of the fact that I'm turning 3 series next year.

Brother was so sweet to buy me cake.. with 3 candles; making fun of my age. Pfftttt.. Nonetheless, the fact that I spent my birthday with my loved ones means a lot to me.



Wrapped up the day watching "The fault in our stars" with Love. Stopped a couple of times with Aisha's cry which I seriously don't mind at all. I do mind that the story sucks. Don't bother watching it!

The next day, Love took a leave and we spent such precious time just the two of us.

Started with my birthday gift; Thomas Sabo!! So pretty still can't stop staring at it!



And lunch at Tony Roma's. Yup.. I'm that typical. Again with Caesar Salad my fav dish.

And ended it with lasertag!! Just the two of us in that whole arena. No.. not romantic.. it was spooky, don't do that. Still, it was super fun!



There goes.. I'm another year wiser.

I love you a lot, Sayang. Thank you.. I had so much fun.. So much..

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

The PAO method

The best thing about maternity leave is that you got to watch a lot of tvs. While nursing, while both of them were sleeping. Fun fun fun!

I kind of have these sick obsession with aliens and serial killers, so while scrolling over 551 onwards, disappointed not to find Anicent Aliens on air, I stopped at Discovery channel. A program called 'Redesign my brain'.

This story is about a tv personality that undergoes a brain training and I somehow interested with one simple memorization technique called PAO method for you to ease up your memorization technique. PAO stands for Person Action Object. Previously, I shared the memorization techniques I learned from Puan Lina's short course, read here. Perhaps this can be the addendum.

It is very simple actually.

Let's say I give you a card; Ace of Spades. How to remember it with PAO method is like this..



Firstly, look at the initial. A for Ace and S for Spades.

Think of a person with that initial.. For example Adam Sandler.

One of the movie he acted in is Happy Gilmore where he was a golfer there.

So the action is playing.

And the object is golf ball.

It sticks in your mind easier when you visualize. So with the PAO method, it helps your brain to visualize.

Simple sharing. But I hope it helps.

Friday, September 26, 2014

My role model

About 2 years ago, a friend invited me to a talk via email. Funny story though, she pasted the link wrongly. So I registered myself to a different talk instead.

I took it as a way Allah swt wanted to introduce  me to a wonderful lady, Puan Lina Karim and later on she became my role model.

See, I wasn't the most 'fun' person to be with. I hate roller coaster, twister or any kind of that 'fun'. I can't even look at my nieces and nephews playing around together. Macam nak kena heart attack. So lasak. I just can't.

And ohh myyy.. Who would have thought my daughter was born super handful. Mom would shout hysterically every now and then. Me? When it's her hyper time I would just call Love and said, "I can't handle this" and walk away. It was too scary to watch. And it was obviously too annoying for both Love and K.

Then, I came across Puan Lina's blogpost that seriously make me feel a lottt calmer and better. Read all about it here.

About the 3 types of mom you could be when your children get handful.


I am obviously Mom no. 2. I want to be Mom no. 3.

It takes a lot of effort. Pray for me. In shaa Allah. Ameen. The only way is forward.

To Puan Lina Karim.. thank you for all the inspiring talks and posts. And making me feel that someone so ordinary like me can produce extra ordinary generations. May Allah swt bless you and your family always.

Happy things from work

Let the pictures do the talking :)




Alhamdulillah. All praise is to the Almighty. Alhamdulillah.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

100 ways to be kind to your child

Article is copied from http://creativewithkids.com/100-ways-to-be-kind-to-your-child/

Tell your child:

1. I love you.
2. I love you no matter what.
3. I love you even when you are angry at me.
4. I love you even when I am angry with you.
5. I love you when you are far way.  My love for you can reach you wherever you are.
6. If I could pick any 4 year old (5 year old, 6 year old…) in the whole wide world, I’d pick you.
7. I love you to the moon and then around the stars and back again.
8. Thank you.
9. I enjoyed playing with you today.
10. My favorite part of the day was when I was with you and we _______.

Share:
11. The story of their birth or adoption.
12. About how you cuddled them when they were a baby.
13. The story of their name.
14. A story about yourself when you were their age.
15. The story of how their grandparents met.
16. What your favorite color is.
17. That sometimes you struggle too.
18. That when you’re holding hands and you give three squeezes, it’s a secret code that means, “I love you”.
19. What the plan is.
20. What you’re doing right now.

Play:
21. Charades
22. Hop Scotch
23. Board Games
24. Hide & Seek
25. Simon Says
26. Twenty Questions
27. I Spy on long car rides
28. Catch

Pretend:
29. To catch their kiss and put it on your cheek.
30. That their tickle tank is empty and you have to fill it.
31. That their high five is so powerful it nearly knocks you over.
32. That you are super ticklish.
33. That you are explorers in the amazing world of your own backyard.
34. That it’s party day!

Try:
35. To get enough sleep.
36. To drink enough water.
37. To eat decent food.
38. Dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable.
39. Calling a friend the next time you feel like you are about to lose it with the kids.
40. Giving a gentle touch to show approval.
41. Dancing in the kitchen.
42. To get your kids to bop to the music with you in the car.
43. Showing your kids that you can do a somersault or handstand or a cartwheel.
44. Keeping the sigh to yourself.
45. Using a kind voice, even if you have to fake it.

Read:
46. A book of silly poems.
47. A story and then act out the plot.
48. Your favorite childhood book to them.
49. When the afternoon is starting to go astray.
50. Outside under a tree.
51. In the library kids corner.
52. The comic book they love that you’re not so hot on.
53. About age appropriate behavior so you can keep your expectations realistic.

Listen:
54. To your child in the car.
55. To silly songs together.
56. For that question that means your child really needs your input.
57. One second longer than you think you have patience for.
58. For the feelings behind your child’s words.

Ask:
59. Why do you think that happens?
60. What do you think would happen if______?
61. How shall we find out?
62. What are you thinking about?
63. What was your favorite part of the day?
64. What do you think this tastes like?

Show:
65. Your child how to do something instead of banning them from it.
66. How to whistle with a blade of grass.
67. How to shuffle cards- make a bridge if you can!
68. How to cut food.
69. How to fold laundry.
70. How to look up information when you don’t know the answer.
71. Affection to your spouse.
72. That taking care of yourself is important.

Take Time:
73. To watch construction sites.
74. To look at the birds.
75. To let your child pour ingredients into the bowl.
76. To walk places together.
77. To dig in the dirt together.
78. To do a task at your child’s pace.
79. To just sit with your child while they play.

Trust:
80. That your child is capable.
81. That you are the right parent for your child.
82. That you are enough.
83. That you can do what is right for your family.

Delight:
84. Clean your child’s room as a surprise.
85. Put chocolate chips in the pancakes.
86. Put a love note in their lunch.
87. Make their snack into a smiley face shape.
88. Make sound effects while you help them do something.
89. Sit on the floor with them to play.

Let Go:
90. Of the guilt.
91. Of how you thought it was going to be.
92. Of your need to be right.

Give:
93. A kind look.
94. A smile when your child walks into the room.
95. A kind touch back when your child touches you.
96. The chance to connect before you correct so that your child can actually hear your words.
97. Your child a chance to work out their frustrations before helping them.
98. A bath when the day feels long.
99. A hug.
100. You get to choose the next one!  What is your favorite way to be kind to your child?

Name for my other Asyikin

In 2011, I shared the story on how I got Khaira's name. Read the story here.

This time around, we decided to give Aisha's name way before I was conceived.

It was on one of the saddest Friday in my life. I remember it clearly, just before Friday prayer, I received a call that made me rushed back from work straight to Ampang. Right after I submitted my thesis. Driving. Alone. Eyes blurry with tears.

And the next thing I know was that I was looking at arwah nenek for the last time. All the conversations we had, linger in my mind. Holding Love's hand. God knows how he felt at that time. My heart shattered by the sight of him.

We sat there, and I said, "If I was to get pregnant again, and if it's a girl, let's name her after nenek's name."

He agreed.

Then, a few months after.. I was pregnant. It was a girl.

Hence, the name Aisha Asyikin.

Dear Aisha, may you grow up as 'lively' as your name, following the personality of the Prophet's wife and a srikandi like your late moyang.

Ameen.

This merdeka day, we had the chance to watch nenek again. How she talked, how she moved,  we were there during the interview. Pengubat rindu.


Nenek and Khaira, trying to capture whatever left of the memory 


Al fatihah. You'll always be missed, Nek.


Wednesday, September 3, 2014

The watches story

I was so naive during my first baby that I thought I could do a lot of things during my 2 months maternity leave. By the end of the leave I wondered where did the time fly.

So this time around, I was extra cautious with my timing. I always check the watch to see if it's time for me to pump or spend time with Kakak Khaira and etc. Thus imagine the horror when I found my Swatch broken at the coffee table.

And so the little culprit came to me and said (before I could even asked), "Jam Ibu putus sendiri". Yeah, right. Of course.

In confinement and desperately need a new watch. For me, watches do not serve only as time instrument, but also as an accessory to substitute a bracelet. I always opt for leather strap and silver plated, but this time around.. I thought of trying gold plated stainless steel watch. Not only it's just as beautiful but it seems like it's also the in thing now.

There are 3 kinds of fashion look where gold watches fit perfectly in place.

The first style is to match it with a semi casual outfit, for instance, a top layered with a blazer, jeans and stiletto high heels. We can mix and match the colour of your outfits everywhere whether to work, college or even on a day out with your girlfriends. The gold watches will match nicely with your outfit and reveals a sophisticated side of you.



The next look will definitely bring out the elegance character in you by wearing the gold watch with some slack trousers and pastel coloured blouse. You could also experiment your own style by changing the colours or patterns of the blouse as the gold element makes it versatile to be match with the majority of outfits you have. This look will be suitable for women to flaunt at the office while portraying a professional appearance.



The third kind of fashion look to style your gold watch is by adding some accessories on your wrist. You could play it safe by matching a silver or gold bracelet along with the gold watch or you could be creative by stacking your wrist with multi coloured bangles. This look is perfect for the ladies who want to have a casual yet stylish appearance during the weekends or even out on a date. Whether you wear it with a basic tee or even an oversized sweater, you will look stunning everywhere you go.


Now.. now.. since I'm in confinement, I thank God for online shopping (need to reconsider cutting my credit card).  Time to get a new watch and the most reliable online shop for me has got to be ZALORA.

Interested to get a gold watch to create your new style? Check out ZALORA as it offers a wide selection of watches from various local and international brands online.

Monday, August 25, 2014

The whats and whys

Khaira talks a lot. Seriously a lottttt.. No surprise there since both Love and I are a bit on the chatty side. I always enjoy talking to her especially when she talks about her imaginary friends. We love that creative side of her.

But.. oh myyy lately she asks too many whats and whys. If that is not memeningkan enough, she would do it over and over again.

"Ibu, why is Aisha crying?"

A minute after that, "Why is she crying?"

2 minutes afterwards, when Aisha actually stopped crying, "Why did Aisha cry just now?"

The next day, "why did she cry yesterday while changing her diapers?"

*bang head against wall*

I came across an article about toddler asking the questions repeatedly and felt so much better afterwards.

The reasons why they asked questions repeatedly:

1. They are of course curious and your answers are not clear enough for them to understand

2. To seek for attention

Both needs me to improvise my parenting skill (T_T). That actuallly helps me become a lot more patience with her. So I just thought of sharing.

But if you need to put an end to her endless repetitive questions, here's what the article suggested you to do:

"Why do you think she cries?"

Ask for her opinion instead.

But what Love did normally was explaining to Khaira in a really really technical term I doubt she understood. Then she would stopped asking altogether.

Works everytime.

He must bore her to max. Hehe.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

How to talk to your toddler

So currently I'm reading this..


Why? Because seriously.. having a toddler somehow seems more challenging than a newborn. The tantrum Khaira has nowadays since Aisha was born, ya Allah..

Look at the pic below.. Whenever mom dukung Aisha..


Anyhow, I just finished reading the first chapter of the book. I found it very interesting,  how it trained you to talk to your toddler.

Some points to share:

1. To encourage your toddler to eat --> "You take a bite of your vege, and then I'll take a bite of mine"

2. Separation anxiety --> Reassure that you will return and get her interested in an activity. Eg. "I know you don't want me to leave, but I'll be back soon" or "Why don't you feed your teddy while I make lunch?" Don't do this.. "it makes me mad when you do that" or "Poor baby.."

3. Weaning from bottle --> " You're a big girl now. Just like me, big girl drinks from bottle"

4. Other people have feelings too --> " When you hit Abi, it hurts him"

5. Put off a toddler's request --> " I can't play now. I'm reading my book. Reading my book is fun for me. Just like playing masak2 is fun for you. Now I'm going to have some fun with my book while you have some fun with your bricks". Explain the reasons to them.

I shall share more in shaa Allah.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

The (hypno) birth of Aisha Asyikin

The pregnancy of our second daughter was exactly as planned, Alhamdulillah. I conceived a month after I stopped breastfeeding my 2 y.o daughter Khaira; of whom I gave birth via hypnobirthing as well. Read about my first delivery here and birth video is linked here.

It all started on Saturday, 2 days before Raya. I kept on hoping I would deliver Baby Aisha after that Friday night because Love and I planned to have the evening all to ourselves before the baby was born. So we had a wonderful dinner, movie and durian buffet. Then the next day when I woke up, I noticed some blood, but no surges at all.

My 189cm hubby and 148cm me

Afterwards the blood disappeared just like that. I was a bit disappointed because with Khaira, I gave birth to her the same day I had a blood show. Raya went by happily and on the second day raya night, the blood show started again. More bloody, this time with surges but again it went by just like that. Disappointed again.

Starting from the second day Raya onwards, I already had my daily morning or evening walk of about 3km a day. Then, I climbed up and down the stairs to my office at level 4. On 5th day of Raya, I still had my evening walk as usual, no surges at all, no show. Had my whole relatives coming over for dinner. It was super fun.

Walk at Taman TAR

Walk at Taman Wetland Putrajaya

The next day, 8 days before Aisha's EDD, I woke Love up early for our morning walk. But on the way back around 10.30 am, I felt even more sensational surges. But I was super hungry (the same feeling before I birthed Khaira), so we decided to pick Khaira up and went to mamak for nasi campur.

I timed my surges while we had our brunch. It was straight away a minute surge with only 3 to 5 minutes gap. By the time I finished my brunch, which was an hour later, the surge became more sensational.

So, we went to mom's place straight away. Took a bath, then I told Love to go straight to the hospital because the gap became even shorter to a point I didn't bother to time.

About 5 mins before arriving at the hospital, I already felt the sensation of pushing. I stopped doing my surge breathing and J breathing so that I stopped dilating for a while. Calm breathing, I reminded myself. I'm almost there. It was around 1.40 pm at that time.

The walk from the parking space to the hospital was like one of the longest walk I felt in my life. While Love settled in the registration, I tried sitting at the bench, but ended up squatting because I just felt like pushing so badly.

The nurses quickly offered me a wheelchair. Since the labour room was full, I was offered a ward where the midwife did a VE and said I was fully dilated. Rushed me to the labour room where they requested for another patient at 6 cms dilated to make room for me.

Entered the labour room at 2pm. No enema, no ctg, not even enough time for me to change to hospital garments, I got to the bed and just pushed, ignoring everybody except Love. The first push made me shouted at the doctor and said; "Doktor buat apa tu? Sakit!" As I felt some burning sensation down there;  I did not have that with Khaira. That was when Love asked me to look only to realize my baby's head was out!! Omg so biggg!! She weighed 3.1kgs.

My Asyikins

At second push; 2 minutes later, the whole body was out. Alhamdulillah so smooth. Felt so better afterwards. I survived with minor natural tear. And the following statement came from my gynae right after I delivered the baby, "You should consider homebirth for your third baby. Easy delivery you're lucky not to have DBA." Apparently DBA is the term they use for 'delivery before arrival'.


So there goes the birth of our 2nd daughter on 2nd of August, 2 minutes in the labour room, we enter at 2pm, she popped our at 2.02pm with 2 pushes. ;)




I must have been so blessed. Alhamdulillah. I would forever feel indebted to Sifu Wai Han whom I met 3 years ago; but changed my life forever. Thank you to family and friends for the endless doa. And thank you to my sweetheart of whom without, I could not even imagine going through this.

My birth story has also been published in Hypnobirthing Malaysia's website. Read it here.




Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Berbuka with kesayangans Ramadhan 2014

We have missed the first two weekends of Ramadhan since Love was warded due to dengue.

That Friday after Love recovered, we went to TGI Friday's Paradigm Mall with my dearest Uniten clans. Incomplete since Mel, Farah and Mimi had to cancel last minute. But still so much fun nonetheless.

Look at my cranky baby

The venue selection was just so so. Traffic was super clear to Paradigm. We left at 615pm and we arrived just before buka. I booked a table earlier but they forgot our reservation. Not making me happy since they gave table at the outside and Khaira apa lagi.. running around lah since dekat dengan air pancut outside. Sigh.. But the surau in Paradigm was very convenient :)

My forever fav food in TGIF is always the Nachos!

Then, on Saturday we went to The Club for buka puasa with Love's relatives. Khaira by that time socialized well with kids near her age. Made our day ♥


Sunday, had our buka at my grandmom's crib. Sighh.. the only grandmom we have this year. I can't imagine how Raya would be..

Monday, went to Tony Roma's Citta Mall with Love's uni clans. Ok. Best gile. Service was superb. Food was delish. They threw us so many desserts and appetisers in the house. Would definitely go there again!! And boy, the surau was also convenient enough for me to bring Khaira in.

Ohh.. and Monday to Wednesday.. kids eat free! Khaira had so much fun because this particular branch is very kids friendly. And Tony Roma's always have the best caesar salad with grilled chicken. :)


Tuesday was Nuzul Quran. Had our usual buffet tradition at Kelab Darul Ehsan with the in laws. This year, they had violinist. Khaira was mesmerized so we had our buka peacefully. And later she danced non stop to the music. I have no complain at all on the food. But the surau, memang can be improved a lot lah. Hopefully next year.

Spot Khaira

The fourth weekend on Saturday, we had Papa John's all you can eat at IPC for buka with the Ampang clan. We bought the Groupon deal, RM 82 for 3 pax. The service in IPC was super duper slow.. totally wouldn't recommend this place for buka.


Then on Sunday, went to Cozy House for buka with my SABians dearest. Reservation please if you intend to buka here. And must place your order before 4pm on that day. No website for the menu, so must memorize the menu like that lah. So funny. Dah la ala carte served only after 8pm. But the food was super good so it was worth it.



The Friday just before Raya, I planned a date just the two of us with Love. Burger King + Hercules + all you can eat durian at SS2. It was a damn good one.


That Saturday, had dinner at Horizon Garden, Bangi with my family. It was a simple one, went back right after buka so we can have our Maghrib at home.


And the next day, Raya eve.. the tradition. We had all the ketupat and rendang for raya.

Alhamdulillah, ya Allah for giving me the opportunity to have this Ramadhan and Raya.. I must have been so blessed :)

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Meeting my kesayangans

Now that the time to give birth is nearing, the nesting instinct becomes crazier.

I didn't know if I would be able to have my Raya or not, didn't know how fasting for a full term mommy would be. Thus, I was just so glad to get to meet my kesayangans before Ramadhan.

After all I'm gonna miss a lot during my confinement later on. Weddings of my two best friends and ohhh.. David Blaine in Malaysia :( lots of open houses.. sedihnye. Dahla I'm a Raya freak.

Anyhow, I thank Allah for the opportunity to meet my SABians bfs. Do you know that we are ALL pregnant this year? Hurrah!



And the opportunity to meet my dearest Unitenians at Mika Kaleel's first birthday.



Earlier that day, we went to Baby Adleena's aqiqah. I so love the matching outfits of these daddy-child though Khaira refused to look at the camera.



Anyhow, happy birthday Mika darling. And welcome to the world Baby Adleena. Semoga menjadi anak yang soleh/solehah dan sentiasa dalam perlindungan Nya. We love the both of you a lot.


Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Khaira's salon haircut

Felt like supermommy these past couple of weeks.

Love has been down with dengue, but life must go on especially that the EDD is nearing!!

I went grocery hunting, with a trolley full with stuff.. alone twice. Imagine me with perut so big and fasting some more to carry all that from trolley to car pun tak larat. But I believe Allah SWT sees every good deeds. Love always helped people around and true enough, both times, a guy helped me out with the heavy stuff. My doa so that good things will happen to both their wives in return.

House chores lagi, all the laundry and stuff.. Alhamdulillah, given the strength to manage everything. Especially with the online shopping, Lazada I love you!

But the most important thing was that, I managed to bring my little girl for her raya haircut. Her first salon experience. She was so calm, no gadget needed until the stylist started to blow dry her hair. Hehe..

Good job, Little K!!


Friday, July 4, 2014

Fighting with dengue

The nightmare began last Friday. Mom was down with fever since Wednesday. Khaira became feverish on Friday. And when I got home, I was feeling under the weather as well. Love cancelled his weekly futsal and headed straight home after his office's kenduri. He too fell sick after he massaged me.

Day 2.

Both Love and I were too weak to even drive to clinic. With the help of my brother, we arrived at the hospital and Khaira was given ubat bontot since the fever did not subside after normal medicine.

Day 3.

Decided to go back to clinic since Love and Khaira had temperature up to 40 degrees the night before. All of us including mom and brother who caught a fever as well by then had our blood test. Mom and I were ruled out of dengue immediately.  Love had a platelet count of 135,000 which was border line. Developed rashes on some part of his body.

Day 4.

After my pregnancy check up, we headed back to clinic since Love's temperature did not subside and he was having bad body ache. Blood test indicated that the platelet count dropped to 95,000 and he was given a referral letter. Went to Columbia Asia Puchong where he was confirmed to have dengue and admitted there straight away.



Day 5.

Aside from bad body ache and constant headache, fever was still around 38+ degrees. Platelet count dropped to 88,000. Brother was ruled out of dengue today.

Day 6.

White cell was normal but platelet count still dropped to 72,000. Doctor said as long as fever was there, hard for platelet count to go up again. He was out of drip but caused him extra dizziness and raised in temperature.

Day 7.

Drip again for a few hours to make him better. Temperature still around 38 degrees. Platelet count dropped to 62,000. Khaira was ruled out of dengue today.

Day 8.

Temperature slowly going down around 36 to 37 degrees. At noon hiked up a bit to 38. Platelet count still dropped to 58,000. Rashes started to itch and skin became thinner.

Day 9.

Temperature finally normal and platelet count went up to 95,000. Love has finally been discharged today!

In conclusion, it has been a tough week for all of us. I strongly believe Allah SWT wants to ease us up in other things, let's hope one of them is the delivery ♥

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

How I imagine the birth of Baby A would be.

It was the third day of Raya. I woke up for Subuh at in law's house only to discover I had a blood show. Was confident I was gonna birth that day.

I woke Love up. Called my parents, so they quickly packed up their stuff to head home. Surge was mild by then. Packed up my stuff and headed to parents' crib.

Half way, we dropped by for breakfast. KFC seemed a good choice as the other stalls were still close at that time. Had a heavy breakfast and feeling so good about the surge which somehow became stronger quickly compared to with Khaira.

By the time we reached parents' cribs at about 10am, my parents arrived almost at a similar time. They took care of Khaira while I had my rest going through the surges.

At around noon, we time the surge and I decided that it was time to head to the hospital. So we took a slow drive to An Nur while I had some packed KFC for my lunch.

After registration, I was referred to the labor room and that was when my water broke. It felt funny. The nurse did a VE and discovered I was around 6 cms dilated. They gave me enema.

Quickly after enema around 1pm, my gynae came for another VE and said I was already 9 cms dilated.  Funny this time around the sensation was much more bearable than with Khaira.

Before they could tie me up to EFM, I felt the sensation of pushing. Love informed the midwife and suddenly it felt so natural to breath the baby out. At one breath, baby's head was out just about when the midwife and gynae was ready. At second breath sharp at 1.15pm, Baby A was born very healthily at 2.7 kgs. She looked so red :)

Less than 5 minutes afterwards, placenta was out. Perineum was intact, it was in fact a smooth easy delivery. Ahamdulillah.

The recovery process was fast. Baby was doing great. Healthy baby. We were discharged the next day. And everything went ever so smoothly; with breastfeeding, recovering and confinement. :)

Alhamdulillah. Syukur.

In shaa Allah. Ameen.

Frozen obsession

I was among the first to get up all excited when Frozen was released. Growing up with Disney's princesses, I still have a soft spot towards them.

But of course I didn't let my little girl watched it because of the subliminal messages and all. So, I wasn't very keen when my brother downloaded the movie for her without me knowing.

At first, everything seemed ok when Khaira got all excited with my purple shawl saying "nak pakai tudung macam Anna" referring to Anna's cape.


Then one night, she started playing at night when I was asleep. I asked her why wasn't she sleep? She replied, "Anna and Elsa played at night too."

Calmly I replied, "That's why Anna fell sick".

Works like magic.

Recently she told me, "Elsa naked in frozen!"

Love asked me to investigate. So I sat next to her scene by scene when she shouted, "There! Elsa naked!"

This is how Elsa looks like..


But, this is the scene where they cropped it making she looks as if she's naked in Khaira's eyes.


And the next scene she said, "Shame shame Elsa. Kain koyak"


Ok darling. No more Frozen for now.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth - A review

Since Ina May's book was a hype among my hypnobirthing friends, I searched for it high and low. Only to discover I could just buy it online.

Here's my first to many moree purchases using Kinokuniya Malaysia online. So efficient, now being a book shopahalic is easier. *take a scissor and considering cutting my credit cards only to realise internet banking can be my next option too, damnnnn*



Anyhow, I finished reading it a couple of days ago. At least for me I found the book rather disappointing :(

It started with a compilation of birth story which 1. I found them a bit scary. Some I even wonder why they share such stories there. I thought it's a gentle birth thingy. Hypnobirthing Malaysia has way cooler stories that you can actually relate. 2. I just couldn't relate all the stories; time difference and no I'm not gonna birth my baby in a farm.

Afterwards, the articles. Some made me better but most lagi laa scary. All the stories on side effects of episiotomy la, epidural la, some weird deseases I never heard of macam Rh negative complete with percentage.

How is that supposed to make me feel better I don't know...

So now, I'm reading Childbirth Without Fear, hoping I got that positive vibrants like the ones I have after reading Hypnobirth.

Sighh..

Anyhow, if you're interested with my review on Hypnobirth, please read it here http://drikeen.blogspot.com/2011/07/hypnobirthing-class-2-breathing-and.html?m=0. I totally suggest this for all of you pregnan t mommies!