Fight for your love

You know that song by Cheryl Cole "Fight for this love", that part..

"We gotta fight, fight, fight, fight, fight for this love" (Repeats three annoying times with voice that is too high to reach the low note)

Don't get me wrong. I love her. She's so smoking hot and the song is good, i mean, her voice is good also, just maybe not for that type of song.

Well, anyway, i'm not here to talk about her.

As most of you already know by now, I've been together with Love for almost 9 years now. From high school, now we're married. And people would say, "Owhh.. they are so lucky, they found each other that early."

But did we know for sure that we would marry each other a couple of years ago? No.

Things were rough for us. We didn't have it easy.

Sometimes, we took each other for granted. At times I was too obsessed with work that I chose to ignore him. Other times he was too obsessed with well, hot stuff like Cheryl Cole.

You know, when everything screws up, you can either do two things:
1. Tell yourself that he's not the one. Blame it on him. Or blame it on the timing. It's your choice.
2. Give it a time and hold on to it for a while.

If you choose number 1, that's the end of it.

If you choose number 2, you have to set your boundaries. How long you have to hold on, and when to let go. You have to know when to let go. If you hold on, and he comes back to you, expect that everything will change. You've to change, he has to change, or else, wait for it coming back 2 years from now.

I got so touchy when it comes to breaking up. Because I've been there and it hurts like hell.

But what i learned from every break up is that it happens for a very good purpose in the end. Or else I wouldn't be happily married with the love of my life.

"Anything that's worth having
Is sure enough worth fighting for
Quitting's out of the question
When it gets tough, gotta fight some more."

Lost

I remember the time when I was in form 4, and I was among the last person in my class who got a handphone.

Still, life was splendid! Was already with Love back then, and was busy travelling around the world with my family cuz Form 4 is a honeymoon year, ryte? We still contacted each other through phone everyday, cuz man, payphone is everywhere.

Then, Dad decided to give me my first ever hp, a bulky 3315 Nokia. Life was so much easier then. No more queuing for payphone to call my Mum to fetch me up. Still it sometimes annoy me that I had to carry it everywhere or else Mum will freak out if I didn't pick up my phone.

From here

About 3 months after that, my phone bills got so worse that Dad decided to take back my hp for a while.

That was when I couldn't even remember how i survived without a hp before. When I was in Penang for a holiday trip, I couldn't even find a payphone there. Which I suspected I was too used of having a hp that my sense to look for a payphone was not as good as before. :(

Anyway, I got back my hp after a week and I lived happily ever after. End of story.

But yesterday, I encountered some similar situation.

I was so used of having the room by my own before I got married. I enjoyed my way-too-big-queen-size bed all by myself.

Then I got married, and I shared almost everything with Love. And I need some time to adjust.

But when I went back late from work yesterday, knowing that Love would not be there in my room last nite, it just feels..

Incomplete.

And I don't like it at all.

I don't like the situation. And I feel disgusted with myself.

Ask and it is given

I love my husband, regardless of the many differences about each other we've come to learn after we're married.

But see, we can't deny the fact that MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT in almost every possible way.

I mean, we girls couldn't stand the fact that the dirty dishes were still in the sink when we got back to work or the dirty clothes were everywhere on the floor. We'd rather wash them first though we might be a bit late to work.

As for boys, they would just be proudly boasting, "told you my socks are under the bed" after tossing all their stuff everywhere just so they wouldn't be late to watch the world cup.

The differences we have.

I wouldn't call myself a neat freak. But, I couldn't stand a messy house or room. While Love on the other hand, he is friends with the Dust Bunny. ;p


So, sometimes I would silently be complaining, "Why can't he volunteer himself to tidy up the room once in a while? Or wash the dishes while i'm ironing his clothes?"

Not that I'm not thankful of what I have, but women nowadays work as equally much as men. Plus, my Dad did as much housework as Mum. He cooked, he cleaned the house, he went to Pasar, so it's hard for me not to have that kind of expectation towards my husband.

Until yesterday, I've been inspired by someone. And remembered what i read on "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". The key is "Ask, and it is given".

So I tried on Love. And the result? He helped me to put the back the clothes inside our wardrobe, help me prepare some ingredients for Nasi Goreng and this morning I woke up, room was clean and it just made my day.

As I sent him to work, I was really cheerful (sometimes, I was too tired due to all the houseworks) and in return he told me how glad he was to marry me.

After a while, I've learned one of my valuable lesson as a wife.

You can't expect your husband to help you volunteerily. But what you can expect is that they are more than happy to help when you asked them to.

I am blessed. :)

Graphical image of 'Love' and I. Totoro because he loves Dust Bunny ;p

A castle of our own :)

Read a facebook status from a dear friend this morning..

"If Allah brings you to it, He will bring you through it".

I have faith. I know He will.

As of 9.30pm yesterday night, we finally have a castle of our own. Alhamdulillah.

Pic is taken from here.

Now I can happily crossed 5 out of 6 things from my to-do-list 2010.

"If Allah brings you to it, He will bring you through it".

Ya Allah, I know you will bring us through this. Permudahkan. Ameen.

Weheartit

Love had a stressful week at work this week and the tense of buying the house made it even worse.

So as I browse through weheartit yesterday, I found this..


And decided to surprise him with this drawing yesterday..


Hope you have a nice day, Love. Cuz we're about to have a home of our own. :)

National Art Gallery

Sebab dah kahwin, tak mature la kan kalau still pegi tempat2 mcm dulu. So we thought of being a grown up and throw a visit at the National Art Gallery last Sunday.

Okay, I lied.

Actually we HAD to go to National Art Gallery cuz I had to work last Sunday. Pfftt.. But it's ok, I have off in lieu.

I was participating in an exhibition called Innofest, which unfortunately nobody cares about our invention cuz they (including me and boss ;p) were too excited for the magic show! lol!

But actually, I'm quite glad that I went to the National Art Gallery cuz I never knew it was an exciting place to visit. For an instance, this is the entrance, nice ryte?

And look at this piece of art, made of some copper wires called 'The Couple'..



Love fell in love with this drawing from Farid Raihan called 'City Trap: Bomber still linger over my head' cuz apparently it's one of the drawing that he can get the meaning straight away. ;p


He also like this P. Ramlee stuff..


But, I prefer Latiff..


Anyway, I must show you my fav!


Allahu Akbar. Cantik kan?
The time that we went, National library had some renovation going on, so we did not manage to visit some of the auditoriums. Look at the construction symbol, pon sgt cantik.

And the toilet signage..


I want to go there again..

Rumah lelong

Went to property auction last Saturday to bid for a house, price is RM139k. And it went up all the way to RM178k. Can you beleive it??? This is not the price of rumah lelong.

So anyway, today I would love to share the procedure of buying a rumah lelong.

1. Check the house and TNC. The taxes and maintainance fees usually will be covered by the bank. You cover only the utilities bill (kalau ada tunggakan)
2. If you are interested, register your name, us we registered to the agent.
3. Then, do a banker's check (5% or 10% from the price of the house before bidding)
4. Bidding day, register and leave your check and IC at the couter.
5. During bidding, stick to ur max budget. Minimum bidding usually every RM1k or RM2k.
6. If you win, you'll be given 120 days to get a loan.
7. Else, take back you banker's check and IC at the counter.

So I lost the bidding.. Maria said, "Maybe rumah tu berhantu". So funny! But, I know it's not the best thing for me because...

I found a better house near the rumah lelong at a better price and it's not rumah lelong!! :)

Moral of the story, please survey the price of the house before you set your maximum target during the bidding. The bidder who bids the house for RM178k surely did not do his homework cuz the value of the house is way lower than that!

Don't do the same mistake!!