A few days ago, Love went to KB for work with some of his colleagues. I guess along the way, he makes lots of new friends too.
As he got back, he was in this “OMG-I’m-so-glad-you’re-my-wife” mode.
What happened to him there?
Then, he told me a story that I pray I will forever remember.
I am not so sure how it started. I guess it started from a normal boring conversation in one of the coffee shop where he spent hours at every day he was in KB.
He said most of his friends almost had no life once they were married. The wives wanted the husbands’ life to resolve just around them.
Keluar malam with friends tak boleh. Jamming on the weekends tak boleh, kena beli barang for anak. Tengok bola at mamak, tak boleh.
Not that they did not love the wives, but they just did not feel happy as they used to.
The story made me feel insecure. I have absolutely no problems of letting him go anywhere he wants as for now. Jamming ke, bola ke, balik 3 pagi ke as long as no b***h involved ;p Because he returns back the freedom I gave by calling/smsing every hour, so.. you know.. would be mcm psycho la kan kalau u nak merapu jeles lagi or whatnot.
But, you know.. the only constant in life is change.
What happened to us once we have a baby? Would i still be the same? Would he truly be happy as what he feels with me now?
Insecurity.
I don’t want us to end up like that..
“I will never let you be that kind of person, Ikeen!” BFF Qdin shouted at me all the way from Aussie.
So glad we have friends as our reminder in daily life.
"Have you ever feel suffocated with me?" I asked him insecurely once he finished his story of 'Why I'm so glad you're my wife'.
"Once, long time ago, maybe masa our 2 or 3 years couple," He said. I nodded, the time when we argued a lot. Owh.. long term relationship did help after all.
"You feel suffocated having me around?" This time he asked insecurely.
"ARE YOU CRAZY?!!!"
He is not the most secure person that would make you wonder whether he loves you or not. And not the most insecure person that makes you push him away.
He sits perfectly in the middle that makes you wonder how on earth does he play this game.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Ayers Rock - Butcher and Grill
Had a weekend all by ourselves last week, and boy, it was good!
We barely had time to spend just for ourselves these past couple of months. With weddings and hang outs and family activities, so last weekend was the moment we have been waiting for, to just chill.
The morning we woke up, Love said, "I'm craving for burger."
He was a die hard fan of burger and I was not. For me, it was way too big to bite and sloppy and bla.. bla.. All the reasons why I hate them are just exacty why Love likes them. Funny!
"Let's have a burger then? Wendy's or Carl's Jr.?" I asked.
"I don't want any burger. I want Massive Burger!" He replied.
"The 500gram German's Deli?""Tak.. There's this one burger shop I've been craving to bring you.. Jom Bukit Jelutong!"
So off we went to Bukit Jelutong. Since we were there he dropped by to a friend'shouse palace (OMG! how cool is the house there!) for a jamming session.
Then we had Massive Burger. I had only the patty, I don't like the bread.
And it was the best patty I've ever tasted in my life, SERIOUSLY. :)
We barely had time to spend just for ourselves these past couple of months. With weddings and hang outs and family activities, so last weekend was the moment we have been waiting for, to just chill.
The morning we woke up, Love said, "I'm craving for burger."
He was a die hard fan of burger and I was not. For me, it was way too big to bite and sloppy and bla.. bla.. All the reasons why I hate them are just exacty why Love likes them. Funny!
"Let's have a burger then? Wendy's or Carl's Jr.?" I asked.
"I don't want any burger. I want Massive Burger!" He replied.
"The 500gram German's Deli?""Tak.. There's this one burger shop I've been craving to bring you.. Jom Bukit Jelutong!"
So off we went to Bukit Jelutong. Since we were there he dropped by to a friend's
Then we had Massive Burger. I had only the patty, I don't like the bread.
And it was the best patty I've ever tasted in my life, SERIOUSLY. :)
Saturday, January 15, 2011
A meaningful wedding present
I love all my wedding presents.
They vary from kain baju kurung, Tupperware, electrical appliances, dishes, solemnization shoes by BFF Maria and of course a microwave oven by dearest friends, Nadrah and co who were so thoughtful to bring over the largest wedding gift I ever received.
Anyway, one of Love’s colleagues bought him a book.
Panduan mencipta rumahtangga syurgawi: Mencontohi Rumahtangga Rasulullah S.A.W.
I would really think that the gift is more of for me, because Love and I were the total opposite of each other. HE DID NOT READ.
Anyway, let’s talk about this book.
You know the first month of marriage was the hardest. Though, you’ve been together for 9 years before you’re married, still..
You get home all tired, you have to cook, have to clean the dishes, have to do the laundry and your husband just do the thing they normally do before he was married; watching football while you did all these.
After a while, you discussed about how life would be easier if you helped each other, your husband agreed, then you started to see the fun of marriage.
And in this stage, after reading this book, we’d be fighting to actually do things for each other.
Because as much we, women think that our responsibility is just to take care of our kids.. and as much as the men think that it’s our culture that women have to do everything for the house.. it comes back to one thing.
How great we are in the eyes of the Almighty that we both did something for our partner, even the smallest thing in the world.
Quoting from the book..
1) Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir dapat pahala seperti membersihkan Baitullah.
2) Mana-mana wanita yang membakar roti untuk suaminya hingga muka dan tangannya kepanasan oleh api, maka diharamkan muka dan tangannya dari bakaran api neraka.
3) Jika seorang wanita meminyakkan rambut suaminya dan janggutnya, dan memotong misainya dan kukunya, diberi minum Allah akan dia sungai syurga diiringi Allah baginya sakaratul maut, dan didapati kuburnya menjadi taman-taman syurga, serta mencatatkan Allah baginya pelepasan dari neraka dan selamatlah melintasi Siratul mustaqim.
That makes both of us wonder, senangnye nak dapat pahala bile dah kawin. Insya Allah.
TQ Yanti, this is a lesson that we’ll forever treasure.
They vary from kain baju kurung, Tupperware, electrical appliances, dishes, solemnization shoes by BFF Maria and of course a microwave oven by dearest friends, Nadrah and co who were so thoughtful to bring over the largest wedding gift I ever received.
Anyway, one of Love’s colleagues bought him a book.
Panduan mencipta rumahtangga syurgawi: Mencontohi Rumahtangga Rasulullah S.A.W.
I would really think that the gift is more of for me, because Love and I were the total opposite of each other. HE DID NOT READ.
Anyway, let’s talk about this book.
You know the first month of marriage was the hardest. Though, you’ve been together for 9 years before you’re married, still..
You get home all tired, you have to cook, have to clean the dishes, have to do the laundry and your husband just do the thing they normally do before he was married; watching football while you did all these.
After a while, you discussed about how life would be easier if you helped each other, your husband agreed, then you started to see the fun of marriage.
And in this stage, after reading this book, we’d be fighting to actually do things for each other.
Because as much we, women think that our responsibility is just to take care of our kids.. and as much as the men think that it’s our culture that women have to do everything for the house.. it comes back to one thing.
How great we are in the eyes of the Almighty that we both did something for our partner, even the smallest thing in the world.
Quoting from the book..
1) Wanita yang menyapu lantai dengan berzikir dapat pahala seperti membersihkan Baitullah.
2) Mana-mana wanita yang membakar roti untuk suaminya hingga muka dan tangannya kepanasan oleh api, maka diharamkan muka dan tangannya dari bakaran api neraka.
3) Jika seorang wanita meminyakkan rambut suaminya dan janggutnya, dan memotong misainya dan kukunya, diberi minum Allah akan dia sungai syurga diiringi Allah baginya sakaratul maut, dan didapati kuburnya menjadi taman-taman syurga, serta mencatatkan Allah baginya pelepasan dari neraka dan selamatlah melintasi Siratul mustaqim.
That makes both of us wonder, senangnye nak dapat pahala bile dah kawin. Insya Allah.
TQ Yanti, this is a lesson that we’ll forever treasure.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Withdrawing EPF to buy our house
I'm richer by a few thousands this month.
First of all because I did a part time training on Latex last week, and they gave me some cash! Yay! Alhamdulillah :) Ingatkan nak ajar suka2 je.
Photo from google
And secondly because I just withdraw my EPF!
I know, ryte? Sukehati je keluarkan EPF this early. Plus, my savings are already enough for me to pay the downpayment. Mum pun bising.
But listen to my point! The interest of EPF for every year is only around 4%! If i saved it in my ASB, I could get at least 7% a year. Go figure yourself which is better!
Because it gave me a lot of headache calling and dropping by Jalan Reko's EPF to ask about the procedure, I figured I might as well share with all of you on the procedure.
Anyway we are purchasing a house from a vendor, not from developer, so the procedure might varies.
Here goes the steps:
1) What you need is borang pengeluaran KWSP 9c --> Get it here
2) Then a photocopy of your IC depan belakang.
3) Buku bank (but I just photostate the statement from my CIMBclicks)
4) Copy of Sale and Purchase agreement verified by your SNP's lawyer (I brought also the original, borrowed from bank since some EPF branch needed it)
5) Bank loan agreement - both original and photostate verified by your bank loan's lawyer.
6) If the house is under your husband's name and you, a copy of your sijil nikah.
7) Geran tanah if you have the individual title already, else you have to get a letter from the DEVELOPER, not from lawyer.
Then you submit all the forms. And within 14 days, they will bank in the money to your account. Wheee!!
As of how much you can withdraw, you can take out as high as 10% from the price of your house, but if your EPF savings in Account 2 is lower than that, you can withdraw everything in Account 2.
Hope it helps. :)
First of all because I did a part time training on Latex last week, and they gave me some cash! Yay! Alhamdulillah :) Ingatkan nak ajar suka2 je.
Photo from google
And secondly because I just withdraw my EPF!
I know, ryte? Sukehati je keluarkan EPF this early. Plus, my savings are already enough for me to pay the downpayment. Mum pun bising.
But listen to my point! The interest of EPF for every year is only around 4%! If i saved it in my ASB, I could get at least 7% a year. Go figure yourself which is better!
Because it gave me a lot of headache calling and dropping by Jalan Reko's EPF to ask about the procedure, I figured I might as well share with all of you on the procedure.
Anyway we are purchasing a house from a vendor, not from developer, so the procedure might varies.
Here goes the steps:
1) What you need is borang pengeluaran KWSP 9c --> Get it here
2) Then a photocopy of your IC depan belakang.
3) Buku bank (but I just photostate the statement from my CIMBclicks)
4) Copy of Sale and Purchase agreement verified by your SNP's lawyer (I brought also the original, borrowed from bank since some EPF branch needed it)
5) Bank loan agreement - both original and photostate verified by your bank loan's lawyer.
6) If the house is under your husband's name and you, a copy of your sijil nikah.
7) Geran tanah if you have the individual title already, else you have to get a letter from the DEVELOPER, not from lawyer.
Then you submit all the forms. And within 14 days, they will bank in the money to your account. Wheee!!
As of how much you can withdraw, you can take out as high as 10% from the price of your house, but if your EPF savings in Account 2 is lower than that, you can withdraw everything in Account 2.
Hope it helps. :)
Monday, January 10, 2011
A new chapter
Feeling a bit melancholy having to erase the content of the white board in my office room..
Each and everyone of them, I worked really hard to achieve and with Allah's will, I managed to cross them off all in the year 2010!
I have a lot of things to be thankful for other than the list in that board, among the major achievements of the year..
I won gold in MTE and ITEX 2010.. Though, ITEX was 2 weeks before wedding, my time management skills had been put into test, but Alhamdulillah..
I won the best paper award before the end of such amazing year.
Been pointed as a session chair..
My KPI was outstanding, students evaluated me fairly..
2010 sees me bringing home achievements upon achievements whereby I can come home and share it with my better half and loved ones. The most beautiful feeling in the world. :)
2010 is such a great year.
And 2011 will be even better, insya Allah. I have faith. To a new chapter..
Each and everyone of them, I worked really hard to achieve and with Allah's will, I managed to cross them off all in the year 2010!
I have a lot of things to be thankful for other than the list in that board, among the major achievements of the year..
I won gold in MTE and ITEX 2010.. Though, ITEX was 2 weeks before wedding, my time management skills had been put into test, but Alhamdulillah..
I won the best paper award before the end of such amazing year.
Been pointed as a session chair..
My KPI was outstanding, students evaluated me fairly..
2010 sees me bringing home achievements upon achievements whereby I can come home and share it with my better half and loved ones. The most beautiful feeling in the world. :)
2010 is such a great year.
And 2011 will be even better, insya Allah. I have faith. To a new chapter..
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Thai Thai @ Sunway Pyramid
Met BFF Qdin over the weekend.
Took him days to really decide on where to eat (you know, men, sigh..) and finally he said he wanted something Asian, more of Thai food. So there we were.
Also, took him forever to decide on what to eat before settling down having a pineapple fried rice yang taklah sedap mana pun. ;p
Just to boast, my impulsive habit of ordering food really paid off as Qdin and I agreed that mine was the best dish of the day..
I can't really remember the Thai name of this dish, it's like a salted fish fried rice with Kailan and chicken. Yumm!
Love had meehoon Pattaya and was arguing that his dish was the best, haha.
Ok verdict: I love the deco, the ambience, the food and the price was reasonable. Might throw another visit there.
Such short period to have Qdin here. He just got back on new year and would be going home this Wednesday. Sad! But I met him twice already, last week he threw a visit to my office and we had tea together..
Truth is, our hang out session this time was so different from what it used to be.
We used to always hang out just the two of us. Talking about ultimate nonsense. ULTIMATE NONSENSE. You wouldn't want to know. Or we shared our view on relationship. I had his guy's view on things, he had mine on girl's.
Now, it would be the three of us since I'm married. I don't want Love to feel awkward, catching up on our conversations and I don't want Qdin to feel like he's the third wheel cuz he's definitely not.
But, the three of us had the best time of our lives.
Qdin had been so nice that everytime we talked about something, he enlightened Love on the situation so that he would be part of the conversation.
And Love had been so nice trying to catch up with our nonsense conversation that he joined in almost everytime pun. He gave his guy's point of view on relationship thingy too!
I thank God to have these two men in my life.
As long as you make the partner feel comfortable and secure and respectful, you might end up with a best friend of a different gender that you will forever treasure.
And I will forever treasure you, Qdin!!! ♥
Took him days to really decide on where to eat (you know, men, sigh..) and finally he said he wanted something Asian, more of Thai food. So there we were.
Also, took him forever to decide on what to eat before settling down having a pineapple fried rice yang taklah sedap mana pun. ;p
Just to boast, my impulsive habit of ordering food really paid off as Qdin and I agreed that mine was the best dish of the day..
I can't really remember the Thai name of this dish, it's like a salted fish fried rice with Kailan and chicken. Yumm!
Love had meehoon Pattaya and was arguing that his dish was the best, haha.
Ok verdict: I love the deco, the ambience, the food and the price was reasonable. Might throw another visit there.
Such short period to have Qdin here. He just got back on new year and would be going home this Wednesday. Sad! But I met him twice already, last week he threw a visit to my office and we had tea together..
Truth is, our hang out session this time was so different from what it used to be.
We used to always hang out just the two of us. Talking about ultimate nonsense. ULTIMATE NONSENSE. You wouldn't want to know. Or we shared our view on relationship. I had his guy's view on things, he had mine on girl's.
Now, it would be the three of us since I'm married. I don't want Love to feel awkward, catching up on our conversations and I don't want Qdin to feel like he's the third wheel cuz he's definitely not.
But, the three of us had the best time of our lives.
Qdin had been so nice that everytime we talked about something, he enlightened Love on the situation so that he would be part of the conversation.
And Love had been so nice trying to catch up with our nonsense conversation that he joined in almost everytime pun. He gave his guy's point of view on relationship thingy too!
I thank God to have these two men in my life.
As long as you make the partner feel comfortable and secure and respectful, you might end up with a best friend of a different gender that you will forever treasure.
And I will forever treasure you, Qdin!!! ♥
Friday, January 7, 2011
Pamper
Just got back from pampering myself at Seputeh Kapas, one of my resolution this year is to have a frequent visit to spa. So, in order to discipline myself, I bought a facial package, 5 times for RM 100. :)
I'm not the only one who's been pampering myself lately. Love surprised me with a new phone when he got back from work last night. Wheee!!! :)
Not that i don't fancy BB or iphone, but at times like this, I really should watch my budgeting. We just bought a house for God's sake, I'm more than thankful for that. :)
So, this is the most practical and reasonable for me.
Garmin, check. Video call, check. Wifi, check. Design, check. That will do for now.
Thank you, Sayang. You're the best!
I'm not the only one who's been pampering myself lately. Love surprised me with a new phone when he got back from work last night. Wheee!!! :)
Not that i don't fancy BB or iphone, but at times like this, I really should watch my budgeting. We just bought a house for God's sake, I'm more than thankful for that. :)
So, this is the most practical and reasonable for me.
Garmin, check. Video call, check. Wifi, check. Design, check. That will do for now.
Thank you, Sayang. You're the best!
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