My grandmother passed away eight days after the passing of my uncle.
She passed away in her sleep peacefully with four of her children coincidentally there to visit her.
Innalillah. Al fatihah.
Three losses in less than half a year hurts like crazy.
I hope that would be the last.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Friday, October 11, 2013
The birthday I don't feel like remembering..
We've had a perfect plan for my birthday.. yet I woke up with puffy eyes.. too much tears from last night..
It started all well. On the 10th, both Love and I spent the night at Istana Budaya.. so much laughters. We came home late, perhaps around 1am. Straight away went to bed at mom's place as we need to work that Friday.
2 hours later.. mom called. I was kinda annoyed. It was 3 am and mom could have just knocked my room. I didn't pick up her call. Went to her bedroom and it was empty. I started to panick. So I called her back.
"Uncle Mi passed away," she said in tears. I was numb. This can't be happening. See, my grandmother from dad's side was seriously sick. She was in a hospital with life support. Both of my grandparents from mom's side was sick. My aunt recently got her leg amputed. But Uncle Mi was as healthy as a horse. The night before, he spent the entire night with my dad mamaking. What the hell is going on??
Was hoping it was a dream. I guess it wasn't.
He was the closest uncle I've had in my life. He was there with me in every stage of my life..EVERY.
Too hard to write the good times we've had. He passed away due to heart attack, the thing he never had before. Friday morning, kebumi on Friday, dalam 10 zulhijjah. He's one of the kindest person I've met in life. He's just 51.
I'm still at shock. Loss for words. Insecure. And I miss him god knows how much..
Al fatihah Mohamed Helmi Mohd Saad. I love you. You'll forever be missed.
It started all well. On the 10th, both Love and I spent the night at Istana Budaya.. so much laughters. We came home late, perhaps around 1am. Straight away went to bed at mom's place as we need to work that Friday.
2 hours later.. mom called. I was kinda annoyed. It was 3 am and mom could have just knocked my room. I didn't pick up her call. Went to her bedroom and it was empty. I started to panick. So I called her back.
"Uncle Mi passed away," she said in tears. I was numb. This can't be happening. See, my grandmother from dad's side was seriously sick. She was in a hospital with life support. Both of my grandparents from mom's side was sick. My aunt recently got her leg amputed. But Uncle Mi was as healthy as a horse. The night before, he spent the entire night with my dad mamaking. What the hell is going on??
Was hoping it was a dream. I guess it wasn't.
He was the closest uncle I've had in my life. He was there with me in every stage of my life..EVERY.
Too hard to write the good times we've had. He passed away due to heart attack, the thing he never had before. Friday morning, kebumi on Friday, dalam 10 zulhijjah. He's one of the kindest person I've met in life. He's just 51.
I'm still at shock. Loss for words. Insecure. And I miss him god knows how much..
Al fatihah Mohamed Helmi Mohd Saad. I love you. You'll forever be missed.
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Our trip to Cameron Highland!!!
My family and I went to Cameron last weekend, our first since a very loonggg time ago.
We booked an apartment called Tringkap apartment via Agoda, which costs us RM 300 per night including tax. We were absolutely happy with the super spacious and clean apartment. It has five queen size bedrooms with two toilets equipped with heater.
The location of the apartment was probably the best. Near to the attractions, but quite a distance from Tanah Rata, so we can avoid the traffic. It has two Muslim restaurants nearby which was quite convenient for us.
Friends suggested to use Simpang Pulai rather than Tapah, so it took us 4 hours (plus stopping for a break and prayer at the RnR) to reach our apartment.
I'm gonna leave you with the photos..
Day 1.
We first stopped by at Lavender Garden, RM4 per adult. Sooo cantik!!!
The cafe was super expensive; selling strawberry cheese cakes, scones, strawberry tea and coffee. However they are not to our likings.
Then, we went to Bharat Tea Walk. Entrance is free. Buy your Bharat tea here. Tempat lain semua mahal, though they claimed they were the cheapest. Tipu itu semua, I kena tipu!
Double rainbow, look look!!
At night, we drove through the heavy traffic to Tanah Rata for a steamboat dinner for what seems like the most decent and the only halal signboard restaurant we found; Glory 78 Steamboat Snack Corner, next to De La Ferns Hotel. Price is RM 23 per adult.
Then, we dropped by for souvenirs shopping at the night market!!! Night market was super awesome, bigger than the ones in Batu Feringghi.
Day 2
Started our day with the Bee Museum..
Then we went for lunch at Tanah Rata. Parents went for bonsai hunting, Love and I went for shoulder and foot massage, a must do!
After that, we went to Butterfly park, ok bestgileeee sangatttt!! RM 5 per adult. So worth it!!
Dropped by at the strawberry farm, nothing much to see. And ended our journey with the chocolate factory!! So cantiklahhh this chocolate place, must visit!! And the foods from the cafe were delicious!!
Next trip: Pangkorrrrrrrr!!! Next month jee.. :)
We booked an apartment called Tringkap apartment via Agoda, which costs us RM 300 per night including tax. We were absolutely happy with the super spacious and clean apartment. It has five queen size bedrooms with two toilets equipped with heater.
The location of the apartment was probably the best. Near to the attractions, but quite a distance from Tanah Rata, so we can avoid the traffic. It has two Muslim restaurants nearby which was quite convenient for us.
Friends suggested to use Simpang Pulai rather than Tapah, so it took us 4 hours (plus stopping for a break and prayer at the RnR) to reach our apartment.
I'm gonna leave you with the photos..
Day 1.
We first stopped by at Lavender Garden, RM4 per adult. Sooo cantik!!!
The cafe was super expensive; selling strawberry cheese cakes, scones, strawberry tea and coffee. However they are not to our likings.
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| The view from its cafe |
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| Abi: Beautiful!! Who made all these, Khaira? Khaira: Allah!!! |
Then, we went to Bharat Tea Walk. Entrance is free. Buy your Bharat tea here. Tempat lain semua mahal, though they claimed they were the cheapest. Tipu itu semua, I kena tipu!
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| Mom and Dad! |
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| View from our apartment |
Then, we dropped by for souvenirs shopping at the night market!!! Night market was super awesome, bigger than the ones in Batu Feringghi.
Day 2
Started our day with the Bee Museum..
Then we went for lunch at Tanah Rata. Parents went for bonsai hunting, Love and I went for shoulder and foot massage, a must do!
After that, we went to Butterfly park, ok best
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| She made this face most of time; whenever she touched the insects, the flowers, adoiii.. |
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| Vandalisme at its worst |
Next trip: Pangkorrrrrrrr!!! Next month jee.. :)
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
3 days of being a housewife..
..was so much fun.
I cleaned the house.. super clean now, washed all the curtains, arrange every corner and every drawer..
Cooked for Love.
But the happiest of all..
.. is to spend it with my girl. Just the two of us.
I cleaned the house.. super clean now, washed all the curtains, arrange every corner and every drawer..
Cooked for Love.
But the happiest of all..
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| Our first lunch date - just the two of us |
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| Angry when I asked her to pose |
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| The right time to teach her about colours |
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| Syok sendiri sambil nyanyi |
.. is to spend it with my girl. Just the two of us.
I love you, Khaira. You're such an easy baby to travel with. Let's make it a monthly thing, our date, I'll try. XOXO.
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Seminar Fiqh - Ibu Bapa Mithali - A review: Part 4
Dr. Tengku Asmadi Tengku Mohamad: Mendidik Anak Cemerlang
The scariest part of all is that, whatever we did with high intensity will go straight to our subconscious mind. Love, anger, hate, annoyance.. Such strong emotions need to be taken care of to our children.
He asked us to also look of the character of our children before we treat them. Not every child behaves at their best when we talked to them nicely, and not every child feels motivated when we challenge them.
Time is against this last speaker, so he ended his talk with the list of things that we need to teach to our children according to its priority:
1) Religion
2) Personality and ethics
3) Academic
4) Skills
If time permits, in shaa Allah, BFF Sumayyah will continue about the 4th speaker that I missed in a different entry. :)
Hye guys, pardon me for the longgg break.. I just got back from 3 days of being a housewife and 2 days of vacation in Cameron.
Anyhow, let me talk about Dr. Asmadi. He began his talk with the three things we left when we die:
1) Ilmu
2) Sedeqah
3) Doa from soleh/solehah child
He asked us to make the doa as our habit.
Dr. Asmadi once conducted a survey to around 1000 students during his motivational talk. He concluded that:
- 10% of students make their parents as their idol
- 15% of students make Rasulullah SAW as their idol
- 80% of students solat 5 times a day
So, he asked us to strive to introduce Allah SWT and Rasulullah SAW to our children. Eg. "You're such a good girl, Allah SWT loves a girl like this, so does Rasulullah SAW." Or when she did something that is nto good, "This is the behavious that Syaitan likes".
He reminded us not to say something bad about our children in front of them.
Dr. Tengku is a certified practitioner in NLP. So, most of the stuff he said are familiar to us.. the things we practiced everyday. Such as to say positive things when we want to scold our children and do it repetitively. It's okay to nag, as long as it is positive.
He said, our behaviors (eg. blink of the eye) are controlled by the subconscious mind. And this subconscious mind and bad habit can be trained and programmed by using NLP.
The scariest part of all is that, whatever we did with high intensity will go straight to our subconscious mind. Love, anger, hate, annoyance.. Such strong emotions need to be taken care of to our children.
He asked us to also look of the character of our children before we treat them. Not every child behaves at their best when we talked to them nicely, and not every child feels motivated when we challenge them.
Time is against this last speaker, so he ended his talk with the list of things that we need to teach to our children according to its priority:
1) Religion
2) Personality and ethics
3) Academic
4) Skills
If time permits, in shaa Allah, BFF Sumayyah will continue about the 4th speaker that I missed in a different entry. :)
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
Seminar Fiqh - Ibu Bapa Mithali - A review: Part 3
Dr. Nawwar Ariffin: Kesihatan Fizikal dan Mental Anak
This is the most exciting speaker of all! It was sooo exciting that Love approached him at then end of the talk to thank him for such enlightenment.
The content of the talk actually didn't relate that much to its title. Nonetheless, it is still super interesting, even without any handouts.
He said the biggest mistake us parents normally do is that we treat our children as a small adult. Example, when they play loudly in a friend's house, we'll become so mad and literally scream at them. We have to think the way they think and lower down ourselves to their thinking so we won't end up so mad. Then,we can be calm and advice them nicely.
Other than that, he also talked about equilibrium. In whatever we do to our child, there must be a balance. Time to study, time to play. But the best toys for the babies are the look of the face and the tone of voice of the parents.
He mentioned that it is sooo easy to take care of the physical and mental of our children. How? Go back to religion. That's it.
Dr. Nawwar also reminded us to tolerate in almost every aspects with the kids EXCEPT about studies.
Besides, we must always answer whatever our kids asked us. Even though it is vulgar. Otherwise, they will asked Mr. Google and it can get worse. I guess I have to equip myself with the answers from now.. Suspense! (T_T)
Dr. Nawwar's session is more of sharing his own experiences, the good and the bad and that what makes most of the participants able to relate to his talk. He told a story on how he once did something and how his son followed it. He learned that our children will always follow what we did; whether it's good or bad.
He also talked about how he promised his son something. And when he got back late at night from work, forgetting to buy that something, the son was already waiting for him looking for that something he promised. Then, he learned to keep his promise every single time.
He asked the fathers to analyze how many hours they spent with their children in a day. And for mothers, analyze the QUALITY time spent. Insafff...
For him, despite of his hectic schedule (he's the youngest orthopedics in Malaysia, top 10 nominees as the astronaut, served in Gaza and Palestine, owned a clinic for kids with free treatments, go imagine how busy), he made a point to send the sons to school everyday and pick a different topic everyday as a discussion with them.
He pointed out several issues that need to be stressed in parenting:
1. Parenting without direction
2. Knowledge deficiency
3. Manners and culture
4. Adulthood and pornography
5. Health and safety
He said, to tackle any issues, to answer any question, we must relate to the Almighty. For example if he asked, "Why is this flower red?" We can begin our reply with, "You know that Allah SWT is the ones who created this flower. It is red because..."
Most importantly, he taught us that what we give to the top must always be the same with what we give to the bottom. He never fails to remind us about our parents, especially our Mom. The ending of the talk was the most touching when he cried after being asked about his late father.
He comes from a family who is not doing that good financially (told us how his dad once cried for not being able to provide him money for his outing), but look at who he is now.. Suhanallah.. Such an inspiration. May Allah SWT bless this amazing soul and his parents whom just A.MA.ZING. :)
This is the most exciting speaker of all! It was sooo exciting that Love approached him at then end of the talk to thank him for such enlightenment.
The content of the talk actually didn't relate that much to its title. Nonetheless, it is still super interesting, even without any handouts.
He said the biggest mistake us parents normally do is that we treat our children as a small adult. Example, when they play loudly in a friend's house, we'll become so mad and literally scream at them. We have to think the way they think and lower down ourselves to their thinking so we won't end up so mad. Then,we can be calm and advice them nicely.
Other than that, he also talked about equilibrium. In whatever we do to our child, there must be a balance. Time to study, time to play. But the best toys for the babies are the look of the face and the tone of voice of the parents.
He mentioned that it is sooo easy to take care of the physical and mental of our children. How? Go back to religion. That's it.
Dr. Nawwar also reminded us to tolerate in almost every aspects with the kids EXCEPT about studies.
Besides, we must always answer whatever our kids asked us. Even though it is vulgar. Otherwise, they will asked Mr. Google and it can get worse. I guess I have to equip myself with the answers from now.. Suspense! (T_T)
Dr. Nawwar's session is more of sharing his own experiences, the good and the bad and that what makes most of the participants able to relate to his talk. He told a story on how he once did something and how his son followed it. He learned that our children will always follow what we did; whether it's good or bad.
He also talked about how he promised his son something. And when he got back late at night from work, forgetting to buy that something, the son was already waiting for him looking for that something he promised. Then, he learned to keep his promise every single time.
He asked the fathers to analyze how many hours they spent with their children in a day. And for mothers, analyze the QUALITY time spent. Insafff...
For him, despite of his hectic schedule (he's the youngest orthopedics in Malaysia, top 10 nominees as the astronaut, served in Gaza and Palestine, owned a clinic for kids with free treatments, go imagine how busy), he made a point to send the sons to school everyday and pick a different topic everyday as a discussion with them.
He pointed out several issues that need to be stressed in parenting:
1. Parenting without direction
2. Knowledge deficiency
3. Manners and culture
4. Adulthood and pornography
5. Health and safety
He said, to tackle any issues, to answer any question, we must relate to the Almighty. For example if he asked, "Why is this flower red?" We can begin our reply with, "You know that Allah SWT is the ones who created this flower. It is red because..."
Most importantly, he taught us that what we give to the top must always be the same with what we give to the bottom. He never fails to remind us about our parents, especially our Mom. The ending of the talk was the most touching when he cried after being asked about his late father.
He comes from a family who is not doing that good financially (told us how his dad once cried for not being able to provide him money for his outing), but look at who he is now.. Suhanallah.. Such an inspiration. May Allah SWT bless this amazing soul and his parents whom just A.MA.ZING. :)
Monday, September 23, 2013
Seminar Fiqh - Ibu Bapa Mithali - A review: Part 2
Dr. Zaharuddin Abdul Rahman: Fiqh Pendidikan dan Perancangan Kewangan Anak
I really looked forward for Dr. Zaharuddin's talk on financial for the kids. The world nowadays I guess it's not easy to run away from riba', and definitely not hard either.
He started with something that put me at ease almost immediately. That when we taubat, Allah SWT will replace us with new flesh and blood. Yay! :)
Then he talked about nafkah and that the best sedeqah of all is to your family member because it is considered as sedeqah wasilah (sedeqah and enhancing the silaturrahim).
He also explained about Riba Qard. It means any additional benefits conditional on the grant of the principal loan amount. Conditions are made at the beginning of the loan contract. It is charged by the lender to borrow. Examples: our car loan, home loan, etc.
The additional benefits do not mean only in terms of money, but other benefits such as "If I borrow you RM 10 now, you can return it back to me next year with RM 10 but you need to help me wash my car."
The best thing about Dr. Zaharuddin was that other than saying this is wrong, he provided us a solution too. So if you want to lend RM 10 to a person today, you can benchmark it with the price of other thing such as gold. When that person returns the money to you next year, it will be as according to the gold's price. If it increases, you can get that return. If otherwise, then you have to bear the loss. But it's okay, in shaa Allah, you will get the return in the hereafter. :)
He also listed a list of islamic banking, takaful insurans and multi level marketing which I will share at the end of the entry.
Also he talked about KWSP and ASB. I guess this is too heavy for people like me to talk about since I don't have any background in financing. This is why I would suggest you to attend his talk if you have a chance too.
For me, it is REALLY an eye opener. Those things we never cared before, you know. Okay, at least I never cared before. I checked to find out my home loan, car loan, car insurance all are not islamic. On top of that, I started my CIMB more than 10 years ago, when it was still called BCB. So, my monthly salary is credited to a conventional bank.
To be honest, I'm kind of at lost yesterday. But today, with new spirit, I planned to refinance everything. Al-Ghaffar, please forgive me for being ignorant.
The QnA was overwhelming. Some asked things like "What if I worked in a conventional bank?" He said, if you mampu, find another job. If otherwise, treat it as a place to gain the experience and knowledge. And, if you're not directly promoting people for conventional banking, should be okay.
Some asked about the health insurance provided by the company, what if it is not syariah compliance. He said, treat it is a gift from the company.
Some asked about stocks and he said ok!! Yay!! Out of topic, I just bought Air Asia!!
I have so many things to share about on Dr. Zaharuddin's talk, but I truly believe I should leave the matter of financial to the expert. And that's why again, I encourage all of you to attend his talk.
He said, islamic banking does not always assure you better profit in terms of money but in shaa Allah, better profit in jannah. I strongly agree. I always look at those children whose parents are just pesawah or penoreh getah who earned so little, yet their children can go to top universities and become so succesful (the story of the next speaker, wait for my entry), must be so berkat whatever they are earning.
I'm ready to lose a little if I need to refinance, but I pray these little efforts count by the Almighty.
When You guide us to it, You'll guide us through it, in shaa Allah.
Islamic banking
1. Bank Islam
2. Bank Mu'amallat
3. Affin Islamic Bank
4. RHB Islamic
5. Am Islamic Bank
6. Hong Leong Islamic
7. CIMB Islamic Bank
8. Maybank Islamic
9. Alliance Islamic
10. Eoncap Islamic
11. Public Islamic
12. Standard Chartered Saadiq
13. HSBC Amanah
14. OCBC Al-Amin
15. Kuwait Finance House
16. Asian Finance Bank
17. Al-Rajhi
18. Bank Rakyat
19. Agro
Insurance
1. Takaful Malaysia
2. Takaful Ikhlas
3. Etiqa Takaful
4. Prudential BSN Takaful
5. MAA Takaful
6. CIMB Aviva
7. Hong Leong Tokio Marine
8. HSBC Amanah Takaful
9. Great Eastern + Koperasi Angkatan Tentera Malaysia
10. AIA + Alliance Bank
11. Ambank + Friends Provident Group PLC
12. ING Public Bank + Public Islamic Bank
MLMs
1. HPA
2. Storm Leaders
3. Score A
I really looked forward for Dr. Zaharuddin's talk on financial for the kids. The world nowadays I guess it's not easy to run away from riba', and definitely not hard either.
He started with something that put me at ease almost immediately. That when we taubat, Allah SWT will replace us with new flesh and blood. Yay! :)
Then he talked about nafkah and that the best sedeqah of all is to your family member because it is considered as sedeqah wasilah (sedeqah and enhancing the silaturrahim).
He also explained about Riba Qard. It means any additional benefits conditional on the grant of the principal loan amount. Conditions are made at the beginning of the loan contract. It is charged by the lender to borrow. Examples: our car loan, home loan, etc.
The additional benefits do not mean only in terms of money, but other benefits such as "If I borrow you RM 10 now, you can return it back to me next year with RM 10 but you need to help me wash my car."
The best thing about Dr. Zaharuddin was that other than saying this is wrong, he provided us a solution too. So if you want to lend RM 10 to a person today, you can benchmark it with the price of other thing such as gold. When that person returns the money to you next year, it will be as according to the gold's price. If it increases, you can get that return. If otherwise, then you have to bear the loss. But it's okay, in shaa Allah, you will get the return in the hereafter. :)
He also listed a list of islamic banking, takaful insurans and multi level marketing which I will share at the end of the entry.
Also he talked about KWSP and ASB. I guess this is too heavy for people like me to talk about since I don't have any background in financing. This is why I would suggest you to attend his talk if you have a chance too.
For me, it is REALLY an eye opener. Those things we never cared before, you know. Okay, at least I never cared before. I checked to find out my home loan, car loan, car insurance all are not islamic. On top of that, I started my CIMB more than 10 years ago, when it was still called BCB. So, my monthly salary is credited to a conventional bank.
To be honest, I'm kind of at lost yesterday. But today, with new spirit, I planned to refinance everything. Al-Ghaffar, please forgive me for being ignorant.
The QnA was overwhelming. Some asked things like "What if I worked in a conventional bank?" He said, if you mampu, find another job. If otherwise, treat it as a place to gain the experience and knowledge. And, if you're not directly promoting people for conventional banking, should be okay.
Some asked about the health insurance provided by the company, what if it is not syariah compliance. He said, treat it is a gift from the company.
Some asked about stocks and he said ok!! Yay!! Out of topic, I just bought Air Asia!!
I have so many things to share about on Dr. Zaharuddin's talk, but I truly believe I should leave the matter of financial to the expert. And that's why again, I encourage all of you to attend his talk.
He said, islamic banking does not always assure you better profit in terms of money but in shaa Allah, better profit in jannah. I strongly agree. I always look at those children whose parents are just pesawah or penoreh getah who earned so little, yet their children can go to top universities and become so succesful (the story of the next speaker, wait for my entry), must be so berkat whatever they are earning.
I'm ready to lose a little if I need to refinance, but I pray these little efforts count by the Almighty.
When You guide us to it, You'll guide us through it, in shaa Allah.
Islamic banking
1. Bank Islam
2. Bank Mu'amallat
3. Affin Islamic Bank
4. RHB Islamic
5. Am Islamic Bank
6. Hong Leong Islamic
7. CIMB Islamic Bank
8. Maybank Islamic
9. Alliance Islamic
10. Eoncap Islamic
11. Public Islamic
12. Standard Chartered Saadiq
13. HSBC Amanah
14. OCBC Al-Amin
15. Kuwait Finance House
16. Asian Finance Bank
17. Al-Rajhi
18. Bank Rakyat
19. Agro
Insurance
1. Takaful Malaysia
2. Takaful Ikhlas
3. Etiqa Takaful
4. Prudential BSN Takaful
5. MAA Takaful
6. CIMB Aviva
7. Hong Leong Tokio Marine
8. HSBC Amanah Takaful
9. Great Eastern + Koperasi Angkatan Tentera Malaysia
10. AIA + Alliance Bank
11. Ambank + Friends Provident Group PLC
12. ING Public Bank + Public Islamic Bank
MLMs
1. HPA
2. Storm Leaders
3. Score A
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