Reminiscing..

I have finally finished reading both Nenek's books that she gave me.

The book about her written by her. It's like walking down the lane 50 years back, when I was not even born yet, but now everything is relatable,

I couldn't understand her first book much, because it is more to politics. I'm so not good in politics. But I kind of learned a lot there.

Nenek's second book that I read is about her journey to London and some times she spent there.

This opens up my eyes a lot, understanding Nenek's perspective when she travelled means the world to me. I always fond of travelling although I'm slowing down a bit now due to the kids. I always learn something new when I travelled, but Nenek learned about a whole lot of things.

The book was written 60 years ago. Funny how you could still relate the working mom's dilemma.

Al fatihah, Nek :) May you be among the pious.

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Also, I have spent 6 months tying to finish up this one book, which I did not recommend at all. What a waste of my time (T_T)

Alright, there you go. Now I'm up to date with my review, yay!

A dose of happiness

At times when I need a dose of happiness, I seldom look for Andrew Matthews.

My favourite is "Happiness Now".

With Andrew Matthews, it is not just an ordinary lengthy self help. They are filled with cartoons and short stories that you are able to relate to. Highly recommended for those who doesn't fancy reading much.

I'm sharing you the 80/20 rules from Happiness Now that I found really therapeutic at times.

The saddest book of the century

I can't believe I'm so lagging in reviewing the books I read thus far.

Have you read "The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini? Oh my goodness, this guys is a genius! Brilliant author, my current favourite, please read it peeps.

It's about a never ending friendship between a boy and his servant's son. Set up in Kabul, during Afghanistan war. The before, during and after effects of the war.

War is just the side story, actually. But for once, I got a deeper understanding on how our brothers and sisters got through their day in Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan, it's saddening.

It got me crying the whole time. A very good read, I rate this 5 over 5.

Please read this, peeps.

Muslimah hair salon - I found it!

My always "mostly read" post in my blog is the "Muslimah hair salon, please!"

I wrote that in 2012, and now it's 2016. It proves that many of us, Muslim women are still looking for the best hair salon for us.

I haven't been updating anything previously because I was still looking for one.

I have been in and out of Hairven, Math Equations, Dedaun Spa, etc. None. None made me stay. So for the past three years, it has been a battle. A constant battle of where.

I have a thick hair, straight at the root but wavy at the end. My previous stylist at Headkandee did a wonderful job in layering it so it won't look too thick and make me uncomfortable. But none. Just none after her. I switched from my 4 years hairstylist after I started to wear my headscarf.

Recently, I tried one and it is love at first sight, girls! Seriously, literally. I know this is the one that I'm gonna stay with for the longest time.

Capello by Nina in Bangi :)

Ain't it beautifullll??? Sorry didn't dare take too much picture, takut tercapture gambar girls without their head scarves here as this is strictly for women.

It has a place for your kids to play around as well. Not that I bring the girls for my "me" time. But just in case you have to, they even't play Boboboi for your kids so they won't distract you.

I had the senior stylist trimmed my hair for RM 53 and Moisture treatment for RM 96 for my first visit a week ago. I'm planning for another visit and hope to try the 02 treatment next :)

Also, obviously got the member card for RM 25, where it will give me 10% off for any of my visit after this including for my friends if they are with me. And on my birthday, 30% off of any treatment, How good is that????

Ohhh.. this is not a sponsored post, girls. I just share my findings, so no worries. I benefit none from my post.

Also just some updates from my previous post, Seputeh Kapas has been closed down some time ago.

So, since 2013, I have been going to Wain Health and Beauty Centre for my facial religiously. And Reborn for my massage. These two are the best, seriously.

But I'm looking for a good place for body scrub still. Been going to Dedaun Spa previously, but it closed down earlier this year as well. So, please suggest if you have any good ones. ladies!

Much love ♥!

Purification of the Heart: Important notes from Mufti Ismail Menk

I listened to this talk by Mufti Menk just now while doing my work, just thought of sharing what I managed to digest. Mufti Menk's speech is always very near to my heart, and this one brought me to tears this morning.

1. Purification of the heart begins when you start to find out the words of Allah. Hence, try to understand the meaning of your solat or surahs
2. When you see someone that is doing a sin, make a doa for him. Praying for somebody to be better will make yourself a better person as well. "Ya Allah, please grant this man hidayah, and grant me hidayah as well"
3. Patience: If it takes you 40 years to discover your Creator, don't expect people to be better in 4 minutes
4. When somebody advises you, don't think that they are judging you. "Judge" and "Advice" are two different things
5. Don't give sedekah something that is haraam, eg. short dress. 
6. When you give someone something, you must know what it is.
7. When you want to ask Allah SWT, ask for  1) Jannah 2) Purification of heart 3) Steadfast
8. If you constantly repent, with the correct way, it will bring you to Allah swt and keep you away from sin. Eg. You istighfar always, then when you want to do sin, it will not go together.
9. Sign that solah is done correctly: On time and worried about the next one. Sins will eradicate themselves.
10. Things that avoid the purification of heart; 1) you do solat but you still do the sins such as pornography every night 2) Do sins when nobody is watching
11. Solat/any ibadah without any other people knowing, purifies the heart. That is the link between you and Allah swt.
12. Cry or even weep for repentance, that's the sign of purification of the heart

Power Parenting: Parenting Gaya Rasulullah - A review pt 5

PARENTING GAYA RASULULLAH

Fifth session: Ustazah Isfadiah

PENGASUHAN GAYA NABI

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nak jadi parent kena ada usaha utk jaga kesihatan diri

berusaha utk menjadi ibu yg baik.

kalau nak belajar dgn baik kena ajar diri sendiri.

Ustzh Isfadiah rapat dgn ayahnya.

Ustzh mengkaji santun cara nabi mendidik anak2.

Surah Ali Imran surah tema keluarga. watak imran tiada dlm surah tu. tp watak isteri imran diceritakan.

Surah luqman surah didikan anak2.

nabi yg cerita nya pasal anak2 sahaja iaitu nabi yaakub.

Allah tinggalkan byk model yg boleh dicontohi.

parent adalah satu jawatan tak boleh letak jawatan. jawatan seumur hidup.

Allah tak htr hanya AlQuran. tp hantar nabi utk demontrasi.

cara nabi adalah yg terbaik.

"Org yg paling baik antara kamu adalah org yg paling baik dgn ahli keluarganya.dan aku adalah terbaik dalam melayan ahli keluargaku."

Rasulullah adalah role model.

set minda anak.

skill bakat anak.

setiap hari 15 minit JOM AMAL refer buku 365 didik anak cara nabi.

buat bersama anak2.

#kupasan video 

#video 1-kanak2 sekolah jepun.

disiplin dan peraturan.

sediakan peraturan dlm rumah dan syura dgn suami/isteri.

#video 2 - 911 nanny

pengawasan/kepekaan

contoh teladan

fokus

#video 3 - kanak2 hisap rokok 40 btg setiap hari sejak 18 bulan

galakkan

#video 4 - calo

u are here not to survive, u are here to fight

Power Parenting: Aplikasi NLP dalam Parenting - A review pt 4

APLIKASI NLP DALAM PARENTING
Fourth Session: Hj Fadzli Yusof

Anak satu pelaburan.
melabur skim cepat kaya. mula2 je happy lepas tu...down.
begitu juga dgn anak.

surah al-luqman
tanggungjwb parent kpd anak2.
ajarlah anak ketika umur 7 tahun. pukul 10 tahun.
tggjwb parent ajar selama 3 tahun 5 kali sehari solat. setahun 800x utk solat. 10800x selama 3 tahun suruh anak solat.

bersabar didik anak. bersabar didik anak.

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15 denda tanpa memukul anak.

5 emosi utama seorg anak
1. INGIN DITERIMA

oleh 2 org yg paling penting dalam hidup dirinya ibu dan bapa.
#malangnya sekrg anak diterima oleh kawan2.
tunjukkan bahawa kita kena terima anak kita. buat setiap hari.

aksi yg kita tak diterima
1. marah
2. tak tengok dia cakap
3. bandingkan
4. bapak tak tegur anak sebulan kerana dpt 8A1B

#ignotic noman.
gelombang otak mudah diproses.
-waktu pagi tgh mamai
-waktu nak tidur tgh mamai.
-emosi intent. sgt happy. sgt sedih.

becareful semasa cakap anak dlm keadaan ignotic.

cth. time tu kita ckp kenapa degil sgt ni.

kalau kita tny pertanyaan di saat ignotic sgt bahaya.

cth. beli byk coklat. faizal jgn mkn lagi. lps lunch baru mkn.
lepas tu faizal curi mkn.

kenapa suka kacau adik. sbb hari2 kacau adik.

dah kantoi mughalazoh.

skrip yg betul
+faizal bdk yg baik. faizal buat mcm ni sbb faizal lapar ye. minta maaf dgn mak.

2. INGIN DICINTAI.

Kalau nak mak sayang dapatkan 5A.
kalau nak coki coki sayang mak dulu.

jgn perjudikan kasih sayang. Jangan sesekali kasih sayang dgn condition.

ramai rockers berhijrah adalah dr latar blkg keluarga yg saling menyayangi.

u must keep loving your kids uncondiotionally.

sesungguhnya Allah sungguh gembira kepada hambaNya yang bertaubat.

Allah sayang kita lebih dr kita sayang anak.

3. INGIN DIIKTIRAF

4. BERASA PENTING

say hi waktu bangun pagi.

berckp dgn org yg kita syg dlm keaddn phone dihdpn.

berckp dgn org yg syg smbil pegang phone.

berckp dgn org yg syg sambil memandang phone.

forget phabby(tak tahu ejaan)

limitkan masa kalau biz online

grp wassap tak urgent. anak adalah sosial urgent.

bila dgn anak avoid phone.

malam tak perlu updt fb. schedule kan time updt.

kalau nak buat mlm mintak kebenaran anak.

5. BERASA BERDIKARI

anak nak jd mcm dewasa.

tugas parent. anak spt deposit acc. acc. pelaburan perlu deposit setiap hari. ia satu portfolio pelaburan.

SENI MEMUJI ANAK

memuji dgn intensiti emosi yg tinggi.

sentiasa puji anak at least sehari sekali.

5 komponen pujian
1. sebutkan kebaikan yg dia lakukan. sama ada ia adalah USAHA ataupun HASIL.

kalau anak remaja.
kalau sebut nama agak kliase
cth anak 17 thn melukis dengan cantik.
puji cantiknya nurul meluks
pujian impaks wow! cantiklah lukisan ni.nurul ni mmg pandai melukislah. tasik tu mcm basah. pokok mcm hidup.

2. perincikan USAHA atau HASIL itu kpd 3 perincian.

3. nyatakan perasaan anda terhadap apa yg berlakukan.
mak bangga, I am proud with you.

4. puji diri anak dgn label yg baik.
kreatif. bijak.

5. masukkan aksesori pujian
awesome, terbaik, good job