Friday, September 26, 2014

My role model

About 2 years ago, a friend invited me to a talk via email. Funny story though, she pasted the link wrongly. So I registered myself to a different talk instead.

I took it as a way Allah swt wanted to introduce  me to a wonderful lady, Puan Lina Karim and later on she became my role model.

See, I wasn't the most 'fun' person to be with. I hate roller coaster, twister or any kind of that 'fun'. I can't even look at my nieces and nephews playing around together. Macam nak kena heart attack. So lasak. I just can't.

And ohh myyy.. Who would have thought my daughter was born super handful. Mom would shout hysterically every now and then. Me? When it's her hyper time I would just call Love and said, "I can't handle this" and walk away. It was too scary to watch. And it was obviously too annoying for both Love and K.

Then, I came across Puan Lina's blogpost that seriously make me feel a lottt calmer and better. Read all about it here.

About the 3 types of mom you could be when your children get handful.


I am obviously Mom no. 2. I want to be Mom no. 3.

It takes a lot of effort. Pray for me. In shaa Allah. Ameen. The only way is forward.

To Puan Lina Karim.. thank you for all the inspiring talks and posts. And making me feel that someone so ordinary like me can produce extra ordinary generations. May Allah swt bless you and your family always.

Happy things from work

Let the pictures do the talking :)




Alhamdulillah. All praise is to the Almighty. Alhamdulillah.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

100 ways to be kind to your child

Article is copied from http://creativewithkids.com/100-ways-to-be-kind-to-your-child/

Tell your child:

1. I love you.
2. I love you no matter what.
3. I love you even when you are angry at me.
4. I love you even when I am angry with you.
5. I love you when you are far way.  My love for you can reach you wherever you are.
6. If I could pick any 4 year old (5 year old, 6 year old…) in the whole wide world, I’d pick you.
7. I love you to the moon and then around the stars and back again.
8. Thank you.
9. I enjoyed playing with you today.
10. My favorite part of the day was when I was with you and we _______.

Share:
11. The story of their birth or adoption.
12. About how you cuddled them when they were a baby.
13. The story of their name.
14. A story about yourself when you were their age.
15. The story of how their grandparents met.
16. What your favorite color is.
17. That sometimes you struggle too.
18. That when you’re holding hands and you give three squeezes, it’s a secret code that means, “I love you”.
19. What the plan is.
20. What you’re doing right now.

Play:
21. Charades
22. Hop Scotch
23. Board Games
24. Hide & Seek
25. Simon Says
26. Twenty Questions
27. I Spy on long car rides
28. Catch

Pretend:
29. To catch their kiss and put it on your cheek.
30. That their tickle tank is empty and you have to fill it.
31. That their high five is so powerful it nearly knocks you over.
32. That you are super ticklish.
33. That you are explorers in the amazing world of your own backyard.
34. That it’s party day!

Try:
35. To get enough sleep.
36. To drink enough water.
37. To eat decent food.
38. Dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable.
39. Calling a friend the next time you feel like you are about to lose it with the kids.
40. Giving a gentle touch to show approval.
41. Dancing in the kitchen.
42. To get your kids to bop to the music with you in the car.
43. Showing your kids that you can do a somersault or handstand or a cartwheel.
44. Keeping the sigh to yourself.
45. Using a kind voice, even if you have to fake it.

Read:
46. A book of silly poems.
47. A story and then act out the plot.
48. Your favorite childhood book to them.
49. When the afternoon is starting to go astray.
50. Outside under a tree.
51. In the library kids corner.
52. The comic book they love that you’re not so hot on.
53. About age appropriate behavior so you can keep your expectations realistic.

Listen:
54. To your child in the car.
55. To silly songs together.
56. For that question that means your child really needs your input.
57. One second longer than you think you have patience for.
58. For the feelings behind your child’s words.

Ask:
59. Why do you think that happens?
60. What do you think would happen if______?
61. How shall we find out?
62. What are you thinking about?
63. What was your favorite part of the day?
64. What do you think this tastes like?

Show:
65. Your child how to do something instead of banning them from it.
66. How to whistle with a blade of grass.
67. How to shuffle cards- make a bridge if you can!
68. How to cut food.
69. How to fold laundry.
70. How to look up information when you don’t know the answer.
71. Affection to your spouse.
72. That taking care of yourself is important.

Take Time:
73. To watch construction sites.
74. To look at the birds.
75. To let your child pour ingredients into the bowl.
76. To walk places together.
77. To dig in the dirt together.
78. To do a task at your child’s pace.
79. To just sit with your child while they play.

Trust:
80. That your child is capable.
81. That you are the right parent for your child.
82. That you are enough.
83. That you can do what is right for your family.

Delight:
84. Clean your child’s room as a surprise.
85. Put chocolate chips in the pancakes.
86. Put a love note in their lunch.
87. Make their snack into a smiley face shape.
88. Make sound effects while you help them do something.
89. Sit on the floor with them to play.

Let Go:
90. Of the guilt.
91. Of how you thought it was going to be.
92. Of your need to be right.

Give:
93. A kind look.
94. A smile when your child walks into the room.
95. A kind touch back when your child touches you.
96. The chance to connect before you correct so that your child can actually hear your words.
97. Your child a chance to work out their frustrations before helping them.
98. A bath when the day feels long.
99. A hug.
100. You get to choose the next one!  What is your favorite way to be kind to your child?

Name for my other Asyikin

In 2011, I shared the story on how I got Khaira's name. Read the story here.

This time around, we decided to give Aisha's name way before I was conceived.

It was on one of the saddest Friday in my life. I remember it clearly, just before Friday prayer, I received a call that made me rushed back from work straight to Ampang. Right after I submitted my thesis. Driving. Alone. Eyes blurry with tears.

And the next thing I know was that I was looking at arwah nenek for the last time. All the conversations we had, linger in my mind. Holding Love's hand. God knows how he felt at that time. My heart shattered by the sight of him.

We sat there, and I said, "If I was to get pregnant again, and if it's a girl, let's name her after nenek's name."

He agreed.

Then, a few months after.. I was pregnant. It was a girl.

Hence, the name Aisha Asyikin.

Dear Aisha, may you grow up as 'lively' as your name, following the personality of the Prophet's wife and a srikandi like your late moyang.

Ameen.

This merdeka day, we had the chance to watch nenek again. How she talked, how she moved,  we were there during the interview. Pengubat rindu.


Nenek and Khaira, trying to capture whatever left of the memory 


Al fatihah. You'll always be missed, Nek.


Wednesday, September 3, 2014

The watches story

I was so naive during my first baby that I thought I could do a lot of things during my 2 months maternity leave. By the end of the leave I wondered where did the time fly.

So this time around, I was extra cautious with my timing. I always check the watch to see if it's time for me to pump or spend time with Kakak Khaira and etc. Thus imagine the horror when I found my Swatch broken at the coffee table.

And so the little culprit came to me and said (before I could even asked), "Jam Ibu putus sendiri". Yeah, right. Of course.

In confinement and desperately need a new watch. For me, watches do not serve only as time instrument, but also as an accessory to substitute a bracelet. I always opt for leather strap and silver plated, but this time around.. I thought of trying gold plated stainless steel watch. Not only it's just as beautiful but it seems like it's also the in thing now.

There are 3 kinds of fashion look where gold watches fit perfectly in place.

The first style is to match it with a semi casual outfit, for instance, a top layered with a blazer, jeans and stiletto high heels. We can mix and match the colour of your outfits everywhere whether to work, college or even on a day out with your girlfriends. The gold watches will match nicely with your outfit and reveals a sophisticated side of you.



The next look will definitely bring out the elegance character in you by wearing the gold watch with some slack trousers and pastel coloured blouse. You could also experiment your own style by changing the colours or patterns of the blouse as the gold element makes it versatile to be match with the majority of outfits you have. This look will be suitable for women to flaunt at the office while portraying a professional appearance.



The third kind of fashion look to style your gold watch is by adding some accessories on your wrist. You could play it safe by matching a silver or gold bracelet along with the gold watch or you could be creative by stacking your wrist with multi coloured bangles. This look is perfect for the ladies who want to have a casual yet stylish appearance during the weekends or even out on a date. Whether you wear it with a basic tee or even an oversized sweater, you will look stunning everywhere you go.


Now.. now.. since I'm in confinement, I thank God for online shopping (need to reconsider cutting my credit card).  Time to get a new watch and the most reliable online shop for me has got to be ZALORA.

Interested to get a gold watch to create your new style? Check out ZALORA as it offers a wide selection of watches from various local and international brands online.